Social Question
"He's Just Not That into You" from the female perspective, what would you title it?"?
I remember when this book first hit the headlines, because it caused a certain irritation in me. This book seemed to imply that men called the shots, and women were desperately trying to interpret signals in order to hook a mate. It also implies sexism in its most basic form, women all want relationships, and men are generally “just playing the field”. To add insult to injury it also implies that males need to give females guidelines to their quirky behaviours so that females can understand that in some instances they are just being used for sex or a pass the time fancy.
Now of course not all women want a relationship, some women also play the field. I am sure men have met women who do and are probably more puzzled than their female counterparts are. The role reversal of this plays out everyday.
To me this book should have been called “If you are psychologically inept and cannot read general signals of human behaviour then please read this manual”.
Personally if I met a guy and phoned or texted him I would wait for a reply. If he didn’t reply neither would I. If he didn’t call me for two days I would move on, because I have a lot to move “on to”. If I was confused by his signals I would ask him outright. It’s called “basic communication”.
A good perspective on this train of thought is, how would this be interpreted in the lesbian, gay, and bisexual communities? The very same signals occur and can be misconstrued. How then would this book feature in these communities?
If you were to change the title of this book, what would it be, or if you were to write the female equivalent what would the title be?
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