How do I find a way to get along with my dad?
I recently moved into my dad’s house. I have never lived with him. I grew up with my mom. I find it quite difficult to get along with him!
So, I just moved so obvioulsy I haven’t found any real friends, so I am always stuck with nothing to do. All my dad does is go to his girlfriends house and eat dinner and watch t.v. And, this is his classification of “spending time together”
Not to mention, I don’t like his girlfriend. She is so clingy and controlling. She is always rude to others and even trys to act like my mom.
Everytime I ask my dad if we are ever going to spend time together he says “You need a job, a car, and friends” I do… but how is that spending time together? If anything, that would just get me out of his hair so he can go about his boring life with his girlfriend.
I feel like my dad doesn’t even care about me or take care of me like my mom did. If I ask him for anything, he complains. It is his obligation to take care of me… I am his daughter!
If I call him out on it, he plays the blame game and tells me I need to something!!!!! Its frustrating.
HELP!!!!
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I would start by finding something you both have in common and build from there.
Your mom could probably fill you in on a few reasons why they are not together but you could ask her what his interests may have been to suggest things you could do together. If all else fails seek out a few new friends to fill in the time you won’t have with the father you will never know.
I think it will take time. Why can’t you enjoy being at home and watching TV with him for now? You are both in an adjustment period. My guess is he is happy you are there but maybe not sure how to entertain you.
The only problem about really spending time together is he is a mailman. He has one day off during the week (I am at school) and a Sunday. Which he uses to ‘catch up on rest”
I will try to find a common ground though.
You are living with a person you do not know. This would be difficult regardless of who it was. Throw in the fact that he is your dad and that embellishes the situation with a thousand other difficulties and expectations. Then throw in the GF and you have a combination that is going to mean endless heartache. Did you give a lot of thought to living with him, or did if just seem like a good thing to do? No judgement here. I’ve done more than one thing without giving it a lot of thought and wound up regretting it. How about moving back with mom and easing into the situation with him.
Switching to his position for a moment. His entire way of life has been turned upside down by having his daughter come to live with him. Not that he doesnt love you. But he has had his house to himself (and his GF) and now he doesnt. He can’t even walk around in his underwear (or nothing) now.
I wish you the best with it.
The best way to get along with someone who has very little in common with you is to find your own interests and not expect to be entertained by others. Fathers aren’t very good at entertaining daughters. If you need his help with anything, ask for it, but do not expect him to offer, men are clueless.
First question: what did your dad give you for Christmas? also, what is your age?
yes what is your age? why did you move with him anyway? not to pry but my 14 year old just moved with me, she didn’t grow up with me
Tell your father what you want from him, directly. “Dad, I want to spend some time with you alone, and I don’t mean sitting around the house watching television. I mean dinner, a movie and a conversation.”
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