Will a man ever love me?

Hi Ellen. I know several guys who prefer rounder women to the slimmer ones. Don’t despair, they are out there!

Sure Ellen it will occur sooner than you speak, for sure.

I have grown me a belly too, but, sadly it does match my thighs. There are so many lonely men on the dating sites. They want someone to talk to, laugh with, go to a movie with. Physical beauty is kind of iffy for everyone who’s 60, isn’t it? Buy some nice clothes and feel good about yourself. I find a sense of humour and kindness much sexier than a 6-pack on a selfish bugger.

There are men out there who can look past appearance to see the other qualities of a woman. Just let your personality shine through, and people will soon forget whatever physical traits you have.

@faye – I get the impression she is not 60 yet.

There are plenty of men out there who just want to be with a woman who loves and respects them as much as they love and respect you. Physical beauty isn’t everything a man is attracted to. You will find yours. :)

@Mat74UK well, she says she is. My answer would stand for me, too, at 55.

@faye – my bad i read it as a proverbail

@Mat74UK no worries.

Nothing will happen unless you get out there and socialize. Just get out there!

And while you’re out there, have a good long look at all the people of all types that are in relationships.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies You are so right….:) All types

it’s all about chemistry…go out and live

Wow, thanks all of you, for your hopeful words. Maybe I listen too much to what is on TV…about the kind of women that men want and demand.
Real Eyes, I had to chuckle, because when my daughter had self-esteem issues, I sometimes took her to the mall, so she could scan all the many different types of people! I suppose I should listen to my own advice…though I’d rather be thin or fat, not a thinnish woman with a steroid belly! Oh well…
Thanks again, to you all! And Mat, yeah, I’m kind of young for my age,,,or so people tell me, maybe that’s why you thought I used 60 proverbially.
((Hugs))

And welcome to fluther!

Ellen, don’t you ever lose faith in yourself! There are men out there of all different shapes and sizes, who accept those just like them. The true man will come along, one who wants a companion to be with them. Someone who can you two as little old people in rocking chairs recollecting on you memories together. No mater what age you are or what size you are, you are YOU and love will find it’s way to your heart. Don’t ever lose faith in yourself because there is love out there just at the end of the tunnel.

Yeah, you don’t need to be watching things on TV or in the womens’ magazines about men. They are always wrong. But they sell very well to women. We’re a good bit more complex than that. Just like my Beagle. Truth about men is that you feed them and let em out 20 minutes later and everything will be OK…:)

Yep a little self confidence is needed here! You can think about us on your first foray to the bowls club!

Hi @Ellen33 and welcome to Fluther. Fortunately none of us has bodies here, and we all fantasize that we have amazing bodies, so that works pretty well for us. (Before long you won’t have a body, either, which makes it a lot easier to fit in.)

But seriously for a change although my ‘preferred’ body type for women not that I’m in any position to make choices for myself any more, but a guy still dreams is the perfectly-proportioned slim, very fit and graceful woman of most men’s dreams. A supermodel with somewhat defined muscles, I suppose.

However… there’s a woman I know at work who is, without mincing words, almost comically ‘fat’. I mean, it’s her picture in the dictionary next to “fat woman”. And yet… she’s funny as hell, smart as a whip, very good at her job, a joyful person to be with, and she has the most beautiful face in the place. If she weren’t half my age and a colleague I’d have no trouble at all asking her out and seeing where that might go.

Hey Ellen, Welcome to Fluther.
Don’t believe everything you see on TV. Men in the real world don’t look like the mages women supposedly demand either.
Look, you’re articulate, you’re sensitive and smart. I’m guessing you can also carry on a conversation without chewing gum and like sayin’ like, like forty times in a sentence, ya know?
Those qualities alone move you to the top of the pack. If you’re self sufficient and not a drug user I’d say your alone days are limited.
Good luck to you.

I am spoken for, Ellen, but I am a bit older than you and if other men my age are like me, I don’t think body shape is all that high on our priorities anymore. I know there are some cradle robbing old guys around, but there are a whole lot more that care about warmth, common interests, empathy, compassion, love, nurturing and that sort of thing. And when that is going, you can still have a bit of the old-fashioned romance. Nobody needs to keep their eyes open under the sheets. :-)

Good luck in finding someone to share your life with. Who knows, he might even be lurking here on Fluther. Welcome aboard.

Aww, you are all so sweet! I may not go to bed; will have to stay up and reread all of your replies! Are many of you from the UK? I’m thinking, ‘the bowls’! I’ve only heard of that in England!
Worriedguy, like what’s wrong with like, chewing gum, huh?? =)
Sigh…I’ll just have to get my boots polished and strut out into the world…or at least somewhere besides my ‘safe’ Starbucks!

@Ellen33 – Yeah UK here. I should be in bed now too!

Good lord, you guys are Nightowls, @Ellen33 and @Mat74UK. Boston, USA here. I used to live in East Grinstead, Sussex back in the Woodstock era.

I’m definitely a nightowl! Care for elderly dad during the day, and the night is MY time! :) I have never been to England, but have rellies on the Isle of Wight.
Go to bed, Mat! ;)

@Ellen33 – In the words of Vic Reeves “My wifes gonna kill me”! Night folks! after all it is 05:20

Appearance is really of much less importance than you have been convinced it is. If you keep busy and involved with people, and if you learn to respect and value yourself, then there is no way to avoid being attractive and interesting to some men.

You need to work on rebuilding your self-esteem. Therapy can help if you find that a big challenge. Do not give up on you!

@Ellen33 If you must watch TV, steer clear of the ManShow.

Uhoh….duly noted!