NSFW Have you ever treated your S/O as a sexual object or even a sex toy to acheive your own pleasure and how did it make you feel?

my fiance is always in the mood! so that’s ok, but then after he comes and i still haven’t that’s when i use him as my as my sexual object and make him do things!!! Is good to be selfish sometimes, he likes it!

If you don’t mind, then is she using you?
If she really isn’t in the mood, and you are, and she willingly accommodates you then are you using her?
I don’t believe so, that is part of the give and take of a relationship.
Even if you aren’t talking about sex, it could be what TV show to watch, as long as you don’t force her to watch American Idol with you then you both should be fine. It’s the reciprocity that matters. It can’t be all one sided.

Is there any other way?

I feel great after, so does she. Her wanting to please me.
Mission accomplished.

Once upon a time when very young, my ex mother-in-law told me it was important in marriage for the partners to help each other by giving in to sex even when one wasn’t really in the mood. At the time I thought she was crazy but as the years passed I began to see the giving side of this, not the exploitation side as I had originally perceived.

I now know not every couple’s sex drives are matched, not every couple experiences the nuances of intensity of the sexual acts the same. Accepting that has made it easier for me to be more receptive than defensive when feeling like a partner wants when I don’t. Conversely, I’ve come to expect my partners to treat me accordingly. Expecting isn’t good though, it takes a conversation to be understood and that doesn’t guarantee an acceptance.

Still, what I do expect is my partner not balk to spend a half an hour with me after fondling an Xbox for hours on end.

@Neizvestnaya “after fondling an Xbox for hours on end.”
he he! that got my attention.

I let her use me. We both win! ;-)

YES< AND GREEEEEAT

Sometimes my wife and I do… after having discussed the matter and decided that this play is going to be enjoyable to both. We are both into BDSM and D/s, though not the heavy stuff.

Safe, sane, and consensual is the key, safe word, as always, in place.

I am usually dominant but enjoy switching and becoming her sex toy.

Obviously I have no problem with this sort of thing as long as it is consensual, including not using guilt trips, pressure, and other manipulation to get what you want.

As far as pressuring the other into sex when not in the mood, it never happens. She is post op and having a rocky recovery so, at this time, we pleasure each other in ways than intercourse and often we just hold each other.

@Arisztid .. you are a good man

@slick44 <blush> Thankyou. :)

@Arisztid ..dont blush. you are honest and true .and you respect your wife. you are truley a man.

I wouldn’t see it as using someone. You are a couple, and therefore are supposed to make each other happy. It’s only wrong if you don’t want to, but you enjoy it? She isn’t using you, she is loving you. If she just wanted to use you, she would get laid elsewhere. But is you she wants inside her, and you she wants to come with.

Ive never even considered doing anything like that…. I mean, when younger I might not have been the most generous love, but I was never just out for what I could get.