What is the longest a guy would take in contacting a girl?

Depends on the type of guy, and how old he is.

Not a dumb question.
Sorry, I’m too dumb to offer you a good answer.
Unlike Dr.C

It’s not a dumb question. Lots of things can influence when or why a guy will call you. Just keep in mind that you are not the only thing in his life and other things might #1 consume most of his time or #2 simply take priority to calling you.

Having said that, there is no real standard waiting period. I’ve called the next day, a week later.. 3 days… 2 days. It varies.

I once met a girl at a club with friends. Lost her number… met her again 2 years later and called her the very next day. Had a lovely 9 month relationship until we realized our lives were going in separate directions. We are still very good friends and talk almost daily.

There are waaaay too many factors to consider. Maybe he’s in jail, so 10 to 15 years, with time off for good behavior.

The right girl… he’s not going to play cutesy games.

I met my wife in May. I didn’t call her for 3 weeks, because I had a knee injury, and I didn’t want her to think I’m a wimp because I was walking with a cane.
She later told me 3 weeks is way too long.

@filmfann -That’s about the amount of time I’ve been waiting. Should I hope he’s injured? Joking. And yeah, it is too long. Glad to hear it worked out though =)

How often can you accurately predict another person’s behavior that you are unfamiliar with?

He’ll call when he calls, in the meantime keep on doing whatever you’re doing. Don’t bother waiting around.

Some guys are worried about calling too early to seem desperate – so take that into account.

And why is it always the guy who has to call first? Cuh. And I thought we lived in the age of equal rights!

Why aren’t you calling him? I know women thing tradition says they should let the guy do all the calling, but don’t you think that’s a bit silly? You can call him, you know. Be honest. Find out if he’s just blowing you off or if he’s interested enough to do it again. Hell. He could be shy and not sure of what you were thinking. Who knows?

No one can know without talking to someone what they are thinking. If you want to know, pick up the phone and make the call. What have you got to lose? You got nothing right now. Maybe you’ll get something. And if he was planning on calling you, you aren’t going to ruin it. And if you do ruin it by calling, he’s not the guy for you (I hope).

Honest to God, I think we’ve decayed back to the stone ages. What happened to the seventies, when women were strong and men were sensitive? Well, ok, so that never happened, but damn, do I feel like I’m living in the 50s. Weird!

I’m old, I’ve had lots of guys call on me and the longest it ever took for one genuinely interested was 3 days. Any longer than that and I pretty much knew I wasn’t first choice in any of their plans and I was never wrong.

Why bother with someone playing games? Don’t wait for the call. If he does call, good, if not, still good.

I say if he hasn’t called in a week he’s not that interested the vast majority of the time. Yes, exceptions exist but if he wants to get to know you and is mature he isn’t going to leave you hanging for long. You don’t want to be with the guy who’s playing games with you before you’re even dating anyway.

Thanks all. Exception or not, I’m not going to be in waiting mode anymore. Just gonna pretend he doesn’t exist.

I forgot that I’d canceled on him a couple times. He’s probably fed with me….
Damnit!

30 seconds.

@ChazMaz lmao…...you got my vote!

>Why bother with someone playing games?

Without knowing any background context she could just as well be the one playing the games.

Ya if hes into you, he will call a.s.a.p if hes not. dont keep waiting and wasting your time. move on.

Yeah, sorry, looks like you answered your own question.

I gotta go with @wundayatta on this. I never waited or did any of that bullshit. Hell, I asked my husband to marry me! I couldn’t wait forever for him to finally have some cosmic 2×4 epiphany. I knew from the first time I saw him that we were supposed to be together. Point is, call him! Git on the phone, girlie! And next time don’t wait so long (or I’ll take my teeth out at ya).

In this instant text message world we live in 1–2 days max after that write him off as a lost cause and even if he calls in my book he is not interested enough in you to be worth your time and effort.

@Neizvestnaya and @Cruiser are right. It’s not so much his calling as how long it takes him to call. He either demonstrates right off the bat that he is interested or he doesnt. And if he doesnt, then he’s not worth your time. If he’s interested, and if he’s a guy that makes it a point to get things done, he’ll call quickly. Next day. If he has some hangup about “seeming desperate” then he has low self esteem. Another reason you might not want him.

17 years. My husband and I met when he was an exchange student in high school. We lost touch after a year or so. He looked me up 17 years later. Oh.. I should add that we had both moved on and did lots of living in those 17 years… no one spent a great deal of time waiting by a phone. Not healthy to obsess.

Nowadays, there really isn’t a general rule on how long a guy should wait to call a girl.
If he’s interested, he should call within the week. You have to remember that you need to respect his time and that he has his own priorities in life; if he was in your position, wouldn’t you want him to respect your time?

@PhillyCheese Not sure I agree with you, although that is probably exactly the kind of thing my son would do. Depends on the personality. For me, if I waited a week to call a woman I was interested in, I would feel silly knowing (in my own mind) that I had already given a clear signal that I was not interested by waiting a week.

It’s really easy and quick to make a phone call, seeing that those things have been around for over 100 years. Most everybody knows how to use them. So this thing about prioritizing doesnt hold water. The guy can’t take 5 minutes and say, “Hey, just wanted to get back to you. I’m really really busy all day today and tomorrow. Can I call in two days and we’ll talk?” OR…even a stream of text messages would work.

If he’s not at least that considerate and CONSCIOUS, I’d drop him. If a quick phone call has to go into his prioritization scheme, forget him.

the truth hurts.

@lostinyoureyes
The truth does hurt when you don’t get what you want BUT someone else out there is happy you available for more than just a back burner good time.

@Neizvestnaya Nice :)