Do you have someone in your life, for whom, you would give up everything you have, just to occupy one minute of their day?
It sounds silly, over-romanticized even, we could do with a bit of that every now and then eh? but when I see him, even just walking by, smiling at me, knowing that someone like him exists in this shitty world, makes every other little problem so trivial in comparison to this feeling i get from him, and all the rubbish falls away and he is the only one that matters. He makes me happy to be alive and excited for the future and all the people I will love and lose and laugh with.
But I just want to hear about ‘your’ person.
Do/did you have someone like that, if not anymore, do you wish you had never met them, or are you glad someone was able to make you feel so wonderful?
If you have someone like this at the moment, is the feeling mutual, or are you on a one way street, is that tough?
How long have they been/were they in your life?
And most importantly, do you think love is vital to life? Would you be able to live without loving someone? Would you want to?
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If they are in your life already – why would you have to give anything up for a minute of their time?
As for someone who is not in my life – at no time ever, teen or current age would I do something so silly.
I did, until last November.
@DarkScribe Okay, but did you ever want someone who was not interested or oblivious? Did you not bother wasting time on them? Just interested. Thanks for your answer, very clear cut.
There have been people I was interested in and they didn’t know I existed and back then I would give up everything to have their attention but I was in high school and my life didn’t stand for much – I would never do this now. I am more of an opinion that it is their privilege.
@TheOnlyException Okay, but did you ever want someone who was not interested or oblivious?
On occasion in my past I have been attracted to a woman who was unavailable – one was a Nun, another married to an absent husband. I controlled my interest and moved on. Aside from that, any woman who I really fancied I managed to become involved with – until I married and now I have all that I am ever likely to want – romantically speaking.
@DarkScribe Ah, I’m sure there are many people (myself included), who would have loved to have been able to ‘control their interest and move on’ all those times it was not reciprocated or impossible. It just gets ridiculous and wastes time you could spend with someone who honestly cares about you. Life is too short.
Thanks for taking the time to answer.
No, I haven’t. I shouldn’t have to harm my experience in order to garnish a moment of someone’s time or attention. I felt like that when I was much younger and hadn’t learned yet that I am worth their time- without me having to give up a damn thing.
Are there people that I go out of my way to see and spend time with? Yes, and they are a blessing to me. I think my knee-jerk reaction to the question is simply because I had so much pain from feeling that..desperation, I suppose, in my youth and how much it caused me worry, pain and loneliness.
Do/did you have someone like that, if not anymore, do you wish you had never met them, or are you glad someone was able to make you feel so wonderful?
I’ve had and have. Though I would never give up everything just to be with them. Because if I did I would no longer be me. The beauty of it is, if the person is worth that, they’d never even dream of asking for such.
If you have someone like this at the moment, is the feeling mutual, or are you on a one way street, is that tough?
I’ve been down all three roads, in love, been loved, and mutual. All three have their ups and downs, but for me, being in love without any return is pretty tough.
How long have they been/were they in your life?
If you tally it all, more years than not.
And most importantly, do you think love is vital to life?
For me it is, it brings a vividness to my world that just makes everything richer.
Would you be able to live without loving someone?
Yes, but it gets tiresome.
Would you want to?
I don’t know.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir I am more of an opinion that it is their privilege.
Haha! Love this. :)
Before I got the person I was chasing, (yay!) with others before him, there were times I would really put myself out there just to turn their heads, and it continued like this until I lost interest. Absolutely silly in hindsight, but I guess my focus is elsewhere now haha :p
No one should. Life is too precious for that kind of devotion.
I want to amend my answer; I was reacting to the nature of the hypothetical. There is no one that I would give up everything I have for, but I certainly have felt powerfully in love (or infatuated with; can’t really tell the difference) at times and a strong desire to be with that person for more than a minute. But I would not give up all that I have or am.
@wonderingwhy i really love your answer :)
I agree that love does add a vividness to life and makes the days easier and more beautiful in a way. You don’t stop and wonder whats the point of it all in those times because you are living it and feeling it and doing it all in the moment.
And loving but not being loved in return is tough for everyone I guess, I have never found a person yet for whom it wasn’t, it is how we deal with it that separates the ‘men from the mice’.
Thanks again for your answer :)
@gemiwing I had so much pain from feeling that..desperation, I suppose, in my youth and how much it caused me worry, pain and loneliness.
Desperation is a major aspect of it. Especially when it is not requited. It taints everything in a way and takes away the beauty that should be there and replaces it with something primal and raw, almost ugly, it causes pain. yes.
I felt like that when I was much younger and hadn’t learned yet that I am worth their time- without me having to give up a damn thing.
Have you ‘grown up’ since then, honestly, as in are you able to control your feelings and understand that you cannot spend all your time on someone who doesn’t want you? Or sometimes do you still find yourself back like when you were young through no fault of your own apart from that you are human?
@janbb I certainly have felt powerfully in love (or infatuated with; can’t really tell the difference) at times and a strong desire to be with that person for more than a minute. But I would not give up all that I have or am
Thats a very good approach to it. So you never got too crazy or out of your head for them, no matter how intense your feelings were you managed to keep a handle on it?
Pretty crazy at times – but generally have had a strong enough sense of myself that I haven’t lost it. Being older and having a stronger sense of self certainly helps me keep perspective, but there are times when I do feel almost 17 again. =P
@janbb but there are times when I do feel almost 17 again
damn, I am 17.. how many more years of this do i have left?! haha :p
@TheOnlyException Unfortunately or fortunately, when you fall in love, you usually feel like you’re 17 – at least in my experience.
Ehhh…..no. The people I was meant to be with at the time were always just as eager to be with me, so that always kinda took care of itself. Plus, I don’t think it IS a shitty world, so recognizing my own self-worth meant that I never had to chase after another human being again. That compulsion was gone.
That sounds super unhealthy…
@TheOnlyException Yes, I have grown up since then. I’m happily married and there have been no one-way emotions in our relationship. Our beginning was a bit complicated, yet we’ve grown up and worked on our emotional health. I would never repeat my past behaviors again, they just weren’t healthy.
I do have enough self-respect now to not give so much of myself emotionally in a one-sided relationship, platonic or no. It’s not about control or self-restraint, more just knowing I have intrinsic value and if the other person cannot see that then it’s their problem and not mine. That’s how I see things now.
Do/did you have someone like that, if not anymore, do you wish you had never met them, or are you glad someone was able to make you feel so wonderful?
– I have someone like that. He’s the most wonderful person I know.
If you have someone like this at the moment, is the feeling mutual, or are you on a one way street, is that tough?
– The feeling is mutual, completely. For the first time in my life I feel as though I’m not just giving all the time, but receiving as well. Most relationships I’ve been in before we’re mostly just me giving, the other person taking, and me ending up hurt. That’s so not what it’s like now, and I’m really thankful for that.
How long have they been/were they in your life?
We’ve only known each other a few months, which is crazy because it feels like years.
And most importantly, do you think love is vital to life? Would you be able to live without loving someone? Would you want to?
I really do think that love is vital to life. Even if you never fall in love with someone.. Just to love someone is so important in life. It’s an amazing feeling to feel as though you are loved especially if the love is unconditional. I don’t think there’s anything more beautiful than that.
Yes, my daughter. Other parents told me that if I got to spend too much time with her, I might get sick and tired of her after a while. I never did. I spent 19h a day with her the first 18 months of her life (24h/day at weekends) and almost 24/7 for another 5 months. Never got tired of her for a second.
I’ve known him 30 years. I called in sick to drive to chicago and hang with him. Lost that job.
He’s playin muncie this weekend but I’m being sensible and staying here for my mom’s 91 birthday.
Love makes the world go round.
Oh yes. My boyfriend, I would give up everything for him regardless.
I am pleased I have found someone who can make me laugh and who I can share anything with. I’m not an easy person to get along with and I’ve never been in a relationship like this. It’s so plain sailing.
Yes, I think love is vital, to me it is as important as breathing, and so no, I couldn’t live without it.
@chels lovely answer :) you are lucky to have found someone like that.
@TheOnlyException Thank you. I got lucky. Super lucky. Everyone should have someone amazing in their life. It’s a beautiful thing.
Do/did you have someone like that, if not anymore, do you wish you had never met them, or are you glad someone was able to make you feel so wonderful?
– I have someone like that, and I’m so happy he is in my life and I’m happy it is who it is.
If you have someone like this at the moment, is the feeling mutual, or are you on a one way street, is that tough?
– I believe the feeling is mutual.
How long have they been/were they in your life?
– Between 5 and 6 years.
And most importantly, do you think love is vital to life? Would you be able to live without loving someone? Would you want to?
– Love is probably something I value most in my own life, though others feel different.
I can’t live without loving someone, nor would I want to.
it would take at least 3 minutes for me to entertain the thought
I have never, and will never, be satisfied with just one minute.
Oh Yeah? Well same back atcha Thriftymaid!!! LOL!
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