How do I be a better Boyfriend?

There is no one way – I think it’s about getting to know her rather than a formula. She has expressed that she wants you to step up and be more aggressive in reaching out so you need to do just that. Say tomorrow, you wake up and have your breakfast and you figure out your plan for the day – so you call her and say ‘hey I was just thinking about you, I’m doing xyz today, want to meet up at some point?’

Have a life and be an interesting young man. Continue to treat her well and make “some” time for her, but don’t jump through hoops. If you become her lapdog then she will assuredly lose interest in you.

Don’t be whipped; be a man.

Welcome to Fluther. You may have come to the right place.

You can take her on little inexpensive dates such as picnics, bike rides, hikes, etc.
If you don’t mind spending a little cash, take her to a museum, or a comedy club, or an amusement park, bowling, indoor skydiving or go to one of those ‘paint-it-yourself’ pottery places. When you spend time with her, just make sure you’re always making an effort to getting to know her on a deeper level. You should walk away from the date having learned something new about her.
Surprise her every once in a while with a text or two and perhaps you can leave little love notes for her to find when you visit her at home.

This sounds more like “how can I get my girlfriend to like me more.”

Ditch the desperation you’re displaying here and do what you gotta do. It sounds like you know what she wants.

So now go do it.

Oh, I see Vunessuh beat my answer. LOL Good Job, @Vunessuh. Yeahh!!! :(
As for when you are being to clingy, only she will know that so ask her. What I might consider too clingy another girl may consider spot on.
However I do suggest you make sure you are getting what you need from the relationship. It can’t be a one way thing where you worship her and she just demands. She has to deliver on the relationship as well. Is she listening to you, remember little details, is there when you need her, thinks of date ideas, is romantic with you and everything else you mentioned?
Welcome to Fluther. :D

If you are in love these things should come easy to you. how old are you.? maybe your just not ready for one relationship.

I will say as a girl, if I feel I am always the one initiating contact, I get to feel quite insecure. So having you be the one to pick up the phone – or IM or text – first sometimes would be a great relief.

And kudos to you for asking the question – I think it’s very sweet!

little touches…...flowers…....and listen to janbb

I’m not in love, but I care for her a lot. We’ve been seeing each other for a couple months and I’ve known her for 4–5 months. We are both 23. I guess I got used to her coming to me..

Janb that’s nice to hear :). I’m trying to be the go-getter type, which will make my life a whole lot easier.

@brinkofit Good idea – passivity in a boyfriend can be a downer.

It depends on her interests and background. If she’s used to being spoiled, acting like a lapdog will probably lose her respect. If she’s from an impoverished, abusive background treating her like a princess can have magical effects.

Take good care of your teeth.

In my experience,if you like each other enough and enjoy each other’s company,anywhere you go on a date will be just fine….
Call her up,ask her out—then plan a romantic date—you do know what she likes,right??
Woooooooooooooooooooooooooo her,damnit! ;)

First off take a deep breathe and relax. I’ll help you with this. The best way for you to be a better boyfriend is to listen to her. Just ask each other what you want out of the relationship and work on each one, one at a time. Trust me on this.

Lick her neck now and then.

@ChazMaz -I forgot about that!

Is she doing similar things for you or is this only one way. Does she expect you to plan oall the dates? Does she do romantic things for you?
This could easily become very one sided. Watch it.
Good luck.

You listed the areas that you need to work on. Take your own advice.

Yes, I’m trying to take my own advice, but I want to be aware of any other things I’ve been taking for granted.

@worriedguy Yes she basically planned 75% of our hangouts and visits me more. To sum it up, I’ve been a passive, too nice to do anything boyfriend. That sucks. I’m trying to open my mind more a bit

I personally think that the very fact that you’ve asked this question makes you a very good boyfriend
Is she a good girlfriend to you?

@lynneblundell Thanks! compliments go a long way. Yes she is a great girlfriend and person, otherwise I wouldn’t bother with it.

Bring her some of her favorite ice cream….,often,....,seriously