Do guys like shy girls?

Some guys do, some guys don’t.

He will find her a challenge. something to conquer

Depends on the guy. Describe him more.

Watch out, because he could come to the conclusion that you aren’t interested in him.

Much older? What are we talking, here?

Lots of guys like shy girls. All it requires is a bit of patience and the shyness will eventually go away. I don’t see it as a problem at all and it has never put me off.

@shadling21 :

I think he’s much older than me but I’m not too sure of our age difference. We completely don’t know each other, and never talk to one another. He’s a new guy at my workplace. Initially he look at me directly alot before I noticed of his existence, but after I started to check him out, I have a feeling that he sort of “ignores” me. Instead of looking at me directly/boldly like he used to be, now he looks towards my direction (like something beside me, etc.) whenever we are in the same work room, but not directly.. but his glances kind of following wherever I go.. Sometimes I got the feeling that he’s at least interested in me, but he doesn’t make a move at all. So I’m not too sure if he’s afraid to make a move because he doesn’t know my age and he thinks that I’m probably much younger than him or he doesn’t like me at all from the beginning.. And he seems to be a really quiet guy.. He doesn’t even converse that much with all the other co-workers..

@boots :
well I seem to be really nervous whenever I’m around him, and I check him out often.. I think he knows that I’m interested in him.. but it’s just that I’m not too sure of his feelings..

@filmfann :
hmm.. probably like 6–10 years of age difference? – i’m just guessing..

To all: will guys stop showing interest if they know that the girl is starting to be interested in them?

Thanks! :)

I like shy girls

6–10 years? How old are you?

Some do, some don’t. Any guy worth having will like you for who you are though, so it really doesn’t matter what guys in general are looking for. I know you are really nervous and shy, but maybe you need to have a wild moment, just once, when you let him know. Don’t plan it, or you will probably not follow through.

My girlfriend started to ignore me when she thought it was too obvious that she liked me. A lot of people do that when they think they’ve been found out.

Think of it this way: shy>obnoxious.

@filmfann :
I’m 22.. and I’m guessing that he’s probably around 27 – 30?

@FireMadeFlesh :
lol.. before I composed this discussion, I was thinking the same way as your girlfriend did.. I plan to ignore him as I think it already gets to the point of being too obvious that I’m interested in him.. or maybe ignore him for real because I don’t think there’ll be any outcome to this..

@ilovechoc What do you think now? If you seriously want to be with him, you should find a way to make that happen. Maybe you could ask the office gossip to find out what he thinks of you, then he/she is certain to tell him. Just brainstorming here, since you don’t seem like the direct type…..

The truth is I knew that my girlfriend was interested long before that happened, but then I am usually quite perceptive and I can read her expressions like an open book.

@ilovechoc Cool. Kinda sounded like you were a lot younger.
Guys can be easily frustraited by shy women, but they know that a shy woman is worth the wait.

Like them, but could never have a relationship with one, since I am not the type to initiate relationships. With my retarded social skills, I learned long ago that the way to survival was keeping my mouth shut and not drawing attention to myself. Such people do not make contact with shy people, since neither will make the first move. Survival is a more basic need than happiness.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land Bad day? Survival without happiness should at least have the hope for future happiness.

@FireMadeFlesh Happiness around other people is not an option for me. Doing my duty as I see it is the only path. Anonymous acts of kindness, so I don’t have to face others.

Extremely shy is a turn off, try talking to him.

I prefer outgoing women but shy is ok. That’s just one small facet of a person’s personality.
Shy can be a pain sometimes. It’s tiring to continuously try to get someone to come out of their shell.

If I were the guy, I probably would assume that you are not interested. I might even think (because of your nervousness) “That girl must be creeped out by me, I’d better avoid anything that could be taken as flirty” – even if I was really attracted to her.

If that’s the case (and it kinda sounds like it to me), it could be solved if you manage to ask him out, perhaps in writing if a direct approach would be too much.

@davidgro : well.. another big concern of mine is actually that this guy looks like he’s much older than me (but I’m not sure how much of the age difference), and we never talk, so I don’t know anything about his personal life, for instance if he already has a girlfriend or not, or you know stuff like that.. or what his thoughts are about going out with a younger person.. Also, I’m not that sure if he has any interest in me.. – well he seems like he does, but I’m a blunt person.. lol.. so I won’t be sure unless he told me or make really obvious hints.. So if I sum all of my worries up, they then become the factors that hold me back from trying to be the one to approach him first.. lol..

@FireMadeFlesh : right now actually I’m still not sure of what to do, except to wait (probably)? lol.. This is because of the stuff that I wrote to “davidgro” above.. So it seems kind of hard for me to make any decision right now.. I think I’ll just let time to decide about what will happen between us.. I think I sounded really weak by not trying to do anything.. but I heard from my guy-friend that if a guy really likes you then there’ll be a point in time when he’ll try to find ways to approach the girl even if he’s a really shy person.. is that true for guys?

TO EVERYONE:
Thank you everyone for all of your inputs… I feel like I’m releasing all my worries without being worried that I’ll be found out here.. lol :) Thank you! I really appreciate them :]

@ilovechoc “if a guy really likes you then there’ll be a point in time when he’ll try to find ways to approach the girl” – at best that only applies to some guys, I certainly wouldn’t count on it.

@ilovechoc That is true, eventually he will approach you if he likes you too. It has taken me up to six weeks in the past, but it depends on him. My suggestions were only for if you want things to happen on your time or for him to notice you where he may not otherwise.

God yes…..!!!! Some of those little things shy women do are simply irresistable, hiding her mouth when she smiles or laughs, not being able to hold eye contact etc…..