The two examples you cited ( underage drinking and sex) are not equal. Providing liquor or even allowing underage teens at a party to drink in your home are flat out illegal and parents have been prosecuted for it, particularly when other peoples children were involved.
So that is both stupid and illegal.
Providing contraception and allowing them to have sex in your home is a totally different scenario. Firstly, it’s not illegal.
Secondly, intelligent responsible parents have vastly differing opinions on the subject.
The percentages of teenage, out of wedlock pregnancies here in the US is extraordinarily high compared to some European countries with a different philosophy on the issue.
The prevailing emphasis of the European approach is on preventing underage pregnancy by the liberal availibility of contraceptives AND the continuing education on the importance of using it regularly. Preventing premature pregnancy and rational discussions on why this is important to achieve life goals prevails.
Contrast this with the US emphasis on preventing sex and all the emotionalism and guilt-inducing moralistic pronouncements that go along with it.
The Abstinence-Only movement here in the States bears quite a bit of the responsibility for the high teenage pregnancy and abortion rate.
In many European countries, the emphasis is much more on education and ongoing discussion. Many of these parents prefer that if their kids are going to have sex, that it is done in as safe and responsible way as possible. There is not a whole lot of this hush hush shame based Puritanism that is so prevalent inthe US.
The birth rates speak for themselves. Are these European parents somehow less caring or responsible toward their children simply because they have a different outlook on the issue?
I’m not saying that I feel personally comfortable with their way of doing things, but it’s obvious that the US way has is not working.
Somewhere there is a happy medium between the two because the “just say no” approach to sex clearly isn’t doing the job.
Bristol Palin is but one glaring example of the failure of the abstinence-only approach.
There are thousands of teen girls in much poorer circumstances than hers for whom a teen pregnancy becomes and end to their aspirations for higher education.
As I mentioned, I’m not necessarily personally comfortable with the European degree of sexual permissiveness regarding young people, but the existence of their philosophy and methods of dealing with it should be acknowledged because it’s working in terms of reducing underage pregnancies. Obviously they are doing something right. Could we learn something valuable from that? I think we would be foolish to not even consider it.