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Is it possible to love somebody after one day?

Asked by Utta_J (252points) April 21st, 2010

If you’ve seen all my other questions they were about prom and to let everybody know it went great! I went with my sisters best friends brother (dont have his number or anything because it was just fr one day, and i dont see the need to have it i dont have anything to really say.)and i didnt know him we had a great time we danced the whole time together and he was really nice and kind then when the limo dropped him off at his aunts house afterwards because we dont even live in the same state we kissed (kinda sloppy but nice and delicate) never been kissed before but because of that whenever i am thinking about the prom thats one of the first memorys that shoot in my head and i REALLY like him. I wish i liked him as friend but that kiss really got to me ( not just lust but his whole attitude wasvery nice, he was a gentlemen!!!)
and i want to think im over reacting because he could be with someone else right now i mean we do live hours away from each other but i keep on thinking about him do i love him? or am i over reacting because i’ve never been kissed and i liked it?..... i hope thats why im over reacting because it might be a year or two before i ever talk to or see him again.

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Zen_Again's avatar

Lust, babes, it’s called lust.

Trillian's avatar

No. When people kiss, the male animal secretes testosterone into the females mouth which stimulates trust and feelings of warmth. And other feelings which, while colorful, I won’t get into with a high school kid.
Anyway. No. Those feelings you have are artificially induced.
Eat some chocolate.

janbb's avatar

Oh – but it certainly feels sweet….....

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I don’t think so :)

Cruiser's avatar

Not seeing him for a year or two will give you plenty of time to mull it over.

chyna's avatar

Infatuation. But the feeling is real.

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

Nope. What you’re feeling isn’t love.
That’s the thinking that leads to single teenage mothers.

wundayatta's avatar

Still, it’s worth the effort to try to find his contact information and tell him how much you enjoyed your evening. It may or may not lead to anything, but it’s a kindness that I’m sure he will appreciate no matter what.

rebbel's avatar

Maybe in love you are.
I do think that you can find a person loveable though in an instant.

Utta_J's avatar

@wundayatta actually i did but thanks anyway good answer

chyna's avatar

@wundayatta Such the romantic. GA. You rock.

wundayatta's avatar

@chyna They don’t say “love makes the world go ‘round” for nothing! You rock, too!

YARNLADY's avatar

@Zen_Again I really don’t think lust is the correct word for this kind of feeling.

I have felt that kind of attraction three times, for each of my husbands, and it lasted until the very end – well, 36 years this time, and still going strong.

john65pennington's avatar

Take a cold shower and check with him next year.

DarkScribe's avatar

@Trillian No. When people kiss, the male animal secretes testosterone into the females mouth which stimulates trust and feelings of warmth. And other feelings which, while colorful, I won’t get into with a high school kid.

I really hope that was tongue in cheek and that you don’t honestly believe it.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

It is possible to have intense feelings about a person after one day. Only time will tell if the feeling was the beginning of a truly loving relationship or merely an intense physiological response to a pleasing erotic experience.

I have experienced what turned out to be true love after one day. I have much more often experienced intense attraction that turned out to be nothing more than that.

thriftymaid's avatar

You like him, not love him. I don’t see why you can’t communicate with him so you can actually get to know him. The phone works across state lines you know.

Trillian's avatar

@DarkScribe I would never ask you to take my word for anything. Here is a link, and here, and here, and here.

DarkScribe's avatar

@Trillian DarkScribe I would never ask you to take my word for anything.

Hmmm. No links to anything but supposition, possibility and theory. If it had any validity then every girl would fall for every guy who kissed her. It takes a lot more than that. What about lesbians? What happens when they kiss. What of the women on testosterone supplementation?

The small “possible” trace of testosterone in a man’s saliva has an instant response with regard to a woman’s libido? If you injected a larger quantity – maybe.

“Open your mouth Sweetheart, I want to spit into it to make you feel warm, loving and trusting toward me…”

Pheromones are not new, and they do most certainly have an effect, but this is not even being promoted as factual, just “possible”.

chyna's avatar

@DarkScribe Open your mouth Sweetheart, I want to spit into it to make you feel warm, loving and trusting toward me…” Nice~

Trillian's avatar

@DarkScribe I think you’re oversimplifying and being dismissive. However, I don’t care about it enough to try to convince you of anything. I feel that this has validity. You do not. I’m content to leave it at that.

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