Do you fall out with family members easily, or do you try to avoid it?

I get along with everyone. The rest of my family is crazy!

there are no family members i dont get along with and i cant think of any one else in my family that doesn’t get along either. i suppose i am really lucky. but also i’m just not the type to create enemies especially in my family.

Wow, it sounds like there’s a lot of tension over your way.
As far as my family is concerned…I have the luxury of living halfway across the country from them all. It sucks cause I do miss them. But I guess this benefits me as I’m sure we won’t be falling out anytime soon. It wouldn’t make sense for me.

I am a keeper of the peace….......to a degree. keeping the family in some kind of harmony, i think, is expected from all of us. i make the effort as i believe most of us do. but, one key word that will set me off in a heartbeat is disrespect. i respected my parents and i expect the same from my family members, especially the younger people. you did not go into particulars with your question, so its difficult to give a specific answer.

@john65pennington The girl I had staying with me created a Fluther account and was really rude. That is why I took her home early. I didn’t appreciate what she was doing. She was also racist, didn’t appreciate that either.

@Sophief she sounds like a really pleasant guest!

I avoid the fallouts by avoiding the people. They don’t value me and I don’t value their opinions. By avoiding them, I don’t have to be irritated by their criticism and they can enjoy themselves by badmouthing me to their hearts content.

@deni She was a nightmare. I know I have my moments on here, but it’s caused by me, and only me. I wasn’t pleased when I found out. But it’s history now.

I do try to be as diplomatic with my family as possible….. but that doesn’t mean I wont slap them down if I feel it necessary. Some situation just demand it!

I try to avoid it. Heck, I try to avoid them.

I have rarely had an event where I brushed up against a family member. I am usually the guy that “slips through the cracks”. The rest of my family seem to like fighting in some ways.

I’m the same, sadly, with both my father and a brother.

In my family, we never tell anyone else we’ve fallen out. We just disappear and let them figure it out if they choose to.

I either ignore them or they have learned to accept that some things I just won’t tolerate, particularly in my house. My wife is more the peacekeeper type though so there’s a good balance as they can always appeal to her.

@Sophief: It appears that you like no one but your boyfriend, as you have told us a dozens of different ways. Instead of getting justification from strangers, why not look inside yourself. I have said this before, I know.

But each of your new questions, so far, confirms my take on this. And again, I do not mean to be unkind. You do seem to be going around in circles however, and the rut is getting deeper.

@gailcalled So, I should of kept the girl here, and allow her to be racist and disrespectful?

The details are irrelevant. It is the constant tone you project. Maybe this girl was a PITA, but your dad, her mom, the lack of friends, etc. make me worry for you. If you alienate yourself from all your family, you may find yourself lonely someday. I’ve said my piece once.

Again, I wish you the best of luck.

@gailcalled My dad ended our relationship, not me. He chose his girlfriend over me. That was one relationship I never wanted over, and I did the best I could to keep that.

My apologies and my sincere regrets. That is a pity. Make yourself the best person you can be; you can live a good life.

My nearest family member is 900 miles away…there are reasons for that I will not go into here! lol!

I hate my sister! She went against my kids, and no one fucks with my kids.

It took a lot longer than it should have for me to let some people fall by the wayside, to be sure. I’ve got a pretty long fuse.

I try to keep the peace within my immediate family. I love them and would be devastated to have anything that could be resolved, even by me swallowing my pride or opinion, between us.

I try to have minimal contact with family members I do not respect or like. They are relatively distant relation, so it is not an issue.

@gailcalled That’s ok, sorry for being so sharp. It’s still quite fresh.

Unfortunately we can’t choose our families but we can choose to ignore them! :-/
I find it’s the best policy as far as some of my relatives are concerned! My sister & I get on like a house on fire, I have two, the other I seldom see, my brother maybe once every couple of years, we grew apart young! :-(
we argue via text or Facebook :-/..... sad I know!

Anymore I ignore people I feel are instigating, negative or just outright don’t know wtf their talking about and still talk about me. The people who respect me always will and the rest can fark themselves with speculation, I know now they won’t cost me anything so I don’t need to smooth things out or cater to them in any ways. Trying to do right or be proactive with a person who could care less about you is just going to get you used and feeling very angry and unappreciated. The good people will understand, trust me so put yourself a bit higher on the totem pole and live your life.

I bend over backwards trying to keep on good terms with my brother.
He shuns family at the drop of a hat.