[NSFW] Is there anything wrong with a busy single man with high sex drive using prostitutes?

Nnnnnnnope.

My gut reaction says that no, there is nothing “wrong” with it but I feel that by jumping into this question too quickly I am not giving it enough thought so I want to bide my time a bit and read other peoples responses. I feel I need other point of views to help me form a true opinion on this subject.

I have a problem with the system of prostitution in most of America, as it amounts to little more than human trafficking. It’s really little more than a modern-day version of slavery.

I don’t have anything against a legal brothel system such as Nevada has.

I don’t care if a man has been with a prostitute. It doesn’t make him any more or less “safe” than any other woman than he’s been with.

I’m with @netgrrl on this one. Funnily enough, men almost always use condoms with prostitutes, whereas with women on dates perhaps less so.

Yes. I think there’s a problem with a man having sex with a prostitute. Even with protection, you’re not 100% safe from STD’s. And yes, I’d have an issue with dating a man who has been with a hooker in the past.

The only issue I have prostitutes is that these women and men are treated terribly and are often carrying multiple STD’s. If prostitution was the kind of profession where the people involved were healthy and treated well, then I would have no problem with a man being with prostitutes.

@netgrrl I’m talking about prostitutes that are in it for money, well paid, happy girls, and not those that do it to support drug addictions or forced human trafficking.

@ItalianPrincess What if a guy meets a girl in a bar and ends up buying her drinks all night and dinner, just to get her into bed? It would cost about the same amount as money as a prostitute only with a prostitute you know you are going to get laid.

@beautifulbobby193 I understand, I just felt I had to add it as a “caveat” to my answer, because my feelings about prostitution as a whole ( which is negative) and my feelings about men who visit prostitutes (I don’t have a problem with them) are different.

No but lets use the term esscort

@beautifulbobby193 If the girls were happy, drug free, clean, STD free, and prostitution was legal, then I might not have an issue with a man having sex with a prostitute. But that’s just not reality.

As far as a guy picking up a girl from a bar…so what? Lots of girls go out to a bar looking for the exact same thing; a one night stand. There’s nothing wrong with that.

@Leanne1986 You basically just want to try to change your intuition? If you said it’s your gut instinct, there’s no need to change it lol (in my opinion). Trust yourself :)

@ItalianPrincess You say you have a problem with guys visiting prostitutes because of STDs, yet you think there’s no problem in sleeping with girls who go out with the intention of getting laid on a one night stand? Are they immune to STDs or something? I’d say they’re probably just as likely to have them as most girls do not insist on protection on a one night stand (trust me on that one), while a prostitute will always insist on it (unless you pay a lot more money).

well, wrong as a concept no. but in reality a lot of prostitutes are forced to do what they do by slavers who traffic them. so, i guess there is nothing wrong with it if you are 100% sure the prostitute is willing and not being forced, otherwise you risk committing rape without knowing it.

I suppose that under all of the above listed prerequisites for an ideal prostitution set up (which I strongly doubt is as realistic as some may think), it’s not an unreasonable choice. However, I don’t think I would be able to have much respect for the man (much as I would not have much respect for a man that picks up girls in bars to get laid). I guess a “high sex drive” to me is just an excuse for being slutty.

@beautifulbobby193 I never claimed that regular, non-prostitute woman are STD free. I just think,know, that prostitutes are more likely to be infected. You say that hookers are more likely to use protection? I would like a link to that information. You also claim that woman don’t use protection most times during a one night stand? Personally I don’t know a whole lot of women that have a one night stand and don’t use protection.

@ItalianPrincess1217 Of course no girl will advertise it out amongst her friends, but trust me – many girls never say a word about protection and some even sigh when they see a guy reaching out for a packet of condoms. It’s true, it really is. I would say out of ten, only about 4 would insist on protection. 2 may suggest it, but would still proceed without them. 3 more would just say nothing about it and would go with the moment, while the other 1 would actually go as far as protesting against the use of it.

Provided that:
(a) it’s legal in the place where he is
(b) he’s using protection (or at least offers the use of it)
(c) the prostitute is not being manipulated in any way into doing something she’s not 100% comfortable with
(d) the prostitute gets to keep a fair payment (ie not have to hand it over to a pimp)

…then I think there’s nothing wrong with it.

@beautifulbobby193 That’s just your opinion. Maybe that’s the experience you’ve had with the women you’ve slept with. But to make that assumption about most women is unfair.

@ItalianPrincess1217 Sorry, but it is the truth and believe me, my poll has been conducted over a long period of time and with a large number of willing and healthy test subjects across a variety of social classes.

What somebody does with their time and cash is of no business of mine! To each his own!

@beautifulbobby193: Whoa there, where are you getting those numbers? I don’t know many women who would actively refuse condoms.

Is it possible that you only attract the kind of women who don’t want to use condoms?

@KatawaGrey 1/10 will refuse them – approximately. I’m sure it could be higher or lower in different states.

As for me, I am very careful as to whom I will ride bareback.

@KatawaGrey You took the words right out of my mouth.

@beautifulbobby193 You can say whatever you want, but just because you say it, doesn’t mean it’s true.

Its your money.

@beautifulbobby193: So, in your experience, 10% of the women who are willing to sleep with you that is to say, the ones who are not in committed relationships and do not sleep with other men, are attracted to you, are interested in fucking you, and, oh yeah, are in your general vicinity don’t use condoms ever. That’s not a very scientific assessment.

I dunno…personally what I find most offensive is not the ‘profession’ of prostitution itself, but the objectification of others.

I think a lot of men that use prostitutes have some pretty warped ideals.

The old ‘madonna/whore’ conundrum.

It’s better than asking for sex on Fluther all the time.

well, too many consequences that are not good….besides, “why buy the cow when you can get the milk free!”

Bottom line, if someone wants something bad enough they can always find a reason to justify/ rationalize in their their favor.

I’m glad I was born a woman…you men have a rocky road to ‘ho.’ lolololol

I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, as long as protection is used then there is no problem. At least he won’t be picking up women, who will think there may be something more serious involved.

There’s nothing wrong with it unless it hurts your life or someone else’s life in some way.

It depends on the situation of the sex worker involved. Is she (or he) truly doing this voluntarily or has been trafficked or forced into this by some pimp? If it is truly a voluntary transaction, I see no problem. But how can you know for sure?

Nothing wrong with a hobby that’s what they’re there for,if you feel the need.

My guess is that he has self-esteem issues if he can’t find a loving companion with whom to have sex.

Ideally, no. Commonly, yes because the majority of prostitutes are not happy well adjusted, free from drugs and STD’s and scary acquaintances. I would not like to date a man who’s been with prostitutes just as I’d not like to date a man with a history of random hookups strictly for sex. My reasons are I prefer the man who’s holds out and puts sex aside with the intention of finding a serious partner to invest in because that’s my goal too. To me it’s like a show of self control and respect for others not to use them just for sex even though technically some people don’t mind that.

Legal issues aside, I think what two (or more) people do that is mutually consensual (whether money is exchanged or not) is their own businesss and is perfectly ethical and moral. That said, patronizing a prostitute is a sure-fire way of catchign a disease. At the very least, you’re almost 100% guaranteed to come away with herpes.

Is this better than going out finding a woman in a bar to have sex with via. filling her with lies and false expectations, just to get her into bed?

Wow, how about being honest with her?

I’ve had my share of casual sex encounters (usually from women who’ve read my erotic-horror-thriller stories and subsequently asked me to meet for casual sex). No lies or false expectations were involved in either direction. In fact, the last woman I met, we agreed before we met that we wouldn’t ever contact each other afterward just so there wouldn’t be false hopes or hurt feelings. And with other women, we’ve continued to be friends, though one converted to Islam and we haven’t said much to each other in a while…

Nothing wrong with it in my book, in fact I think it should be legal. Would I date a guy who did this? I might do. It depends on the guy and how responsible and honest I thought he was.