Can a girl and guy really be just friends if they're attractive?

How many times is this same question going to be asked? Search for the other answers, they still apply. Your situation is not unique. You are not a special snowflake.

They can, if that is what they both want.

I think a better phrased question would be “if they find each other attractive.” And yes, I do think a guy and a girl can be just friends.

People of the opposite sex can’t be friends unless one of them is attracted to the other.

Yes, do you mean “if they’re attractive” or “if they’re attracted to each other”? Because, gee, if all attractive people were doomed to sexual relationships with each other, there wouldn’t be time for much else.

If all they want is friendship, then yes, they can be “just friends”. There are several different types of “love” and sure, friends can develop a friendly love for each other, similar to the family love we have for our family. That doesn’t mean they develop a romantic love for that person.

If we instantly fell in love with everyone we found attractive, monogamy wouldn’t exist.

Yes, I mean if the other person is good-looking.

Oh yes. Just because the girl is beautiful and the man is handsome doesn’t mean they can’t just be “friends”. They may like each other for their minds and their personality, yet do not find each other as their “physical type” for sexual or romantic attraction.

Impossible! If both people are attractive, it’s inevitable they end up screwing each other’s brains out. It’s the law, in fact. I think it’s even written in the Constitution. Or whatever the United Nations uses to set the world straight. Yeah, straight. The law doesn’t apply to gay people. They can be friends, if they want, if they are both attractive. Discrimination, I say. But does anyone care? Not a word of it. There is no scandal. No protest. Just scads and scads of attractive people bonking and never being friends!

Thank God I’m not attractive!

@wundayatta – the law applies to attractive lesbians, of course . . .

as long as alcohol isnt involved. As soon as you add that, inhabitions fall down and anything can happen. You dont want to be sorry later.

Nope. Genitalia are like magnets. If they’re opposites, they get pulled right together.
Science!

Yes they can if they choose to keep it platonic. Just because you have feelings doesn’t mean it’s wise or timely to act on them. Friendships aren’t supposed to be devoid of sexual tension as a rule.

Yes. It’s hard sometimes, and there may be sexual tension, but who says there shouldn’t be? I agree with @Neizvestnaya – it would mean that all good-looking people in the world couldn’t have good-looking friends. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder, anyway.

Being attractive and being attracted to each other are two different things. Then again, I hear that women can be oblivious to a mans raging desire and remain friends, but men, being a lower life form, are ruled by their penises and feel the need to nail every female they know.
I could be wrong, I’m not always a reliable source. ;-)
@Sarcasm What is up with that goatee?

@Trillian I have some birds nesting in it. I can’t destroy their natural habitat.

@Trillian
Ha ha ha, I’ve heard this from several of my guy friends that we women should keep in mind men always have boinking in the back of their minds but again, the choice to not act out is what’s important in showing respect to the friendship.

If they’re shallow enough to think that they’re ‘all that’ just because they’re attractive, I don’t see how they can even be friends.

I’ve always had more male friends than female. I was fairly attractive back in the day, and many of my male friends were, too. Did I ever mess around with any of them? Honestly, yes – a few. But certainly not all of them. And when I did mess around with them, I was single. No cheating, ever (which is what I suspect this question is really about).

@augustlan
Yeah, what she said!

I believe it was the esteemed philosopher Chris Rock who said that your attractive friends of the opposite sex are the “break glass in case of emergency” future sex partners.

You don’t have to bone ‘em, but chances are you will under the right circumstances.

This can be a good thing or a bad thing.

i am assuming you mean physically attractive and yes of course they can. Sometimes getting involved with a person sexually can have a bad effect on the relationship as well

Yes, if they are on different continents.