I think that, while it is certainly changing how we interact, it is interfering with our interactions, to the extent that people prefer to communicate via technology instead of in person. I don’t know how much people are substituting virtual interaction for real life interaction.
My daughter, aged 13, uses Facebook almost constantly to keep in touch with her schoolmates. Does this interfere or enhance? Well, she lives far away from the schoolmates, so she probably wouldn’t go to see them in person. With technology, she gets to interact.
A lot of people meet online for friendship or more intimate relationships. I think most people underestimate the amount of information they do not get when interacting only virtually. When they meet, there is so much more to find out. Like their privacy preferences. Or how their personalities change under the influence of alcohol. How they hug or kiss or make love. How they like to eat and maybe even what they like to eat. Music preferences. There are many things that we learn in real life interaction that we don’t even think about until we start a relationship virtually and then move to real life.
Is this interference or does it enhance interaction? You can certainly meet many people online that you would never meet if the virtual world didn’t exist. On the other hand, since you meet online, you have to conduct all of the relationship virtually until you make the leap to real world interaction.
I think that the virtual world can be quite misleading. Even if you use photos and talk on the phone or do videochat, there are many things you don’t see in the virtual world that are perfectly obvious in person. One time I met someone I had seen on video chat. This person shocked me when we met in person. She was so much bigger than she seemed over the video. It was very weird. I went back to old videotapes to see how I could have missed at, and to this day, I don’t understand.
I think that the downside of virtual interaction is that people forget how much they don’t know about another person. The virtual interaction is so powerful on it’s own, that you can think you know everything. It’s hard to remember that what you think you know is largely made up based on the cues you have. That fantasy person could be quite different from the real one.
Even if someone tells you everything about themselves—habits and illnesses and ways of thinking and other problems. The import of these things isn’t apparent until you meet. I don’t think anyone can imagine the effect that ADD has on a person’s behavior. ADD is just a label. Being late and losing focus and getting obsessive about strange things are completely unknowable.
I guess I do think that technology interferes with human interaction. It also facilitates that interaction. The interference is that it fools us into believing we know more than we do. This is not a deadly flaw by any means. Just something to be aware of and cautious about.