Should you always say good bye?

Depending on how much time it’s been since all of this happened, I think I’d leave it alone. Picking at that scab may be more hurtful than it’s worth. Besides, if you say good bye, that may close the door for good. This way, maybe there’s still a chance of the two of you getting your friendship/relationship put back together. That’s just my opinion, for what it’s worth.

I had a friend stop talking to me between one day and the next this year; it was verypainful. No explanation and she refuses to engage with us. I am all in favor of closure and saying goodbye, but sometimes the choice is not yours to make. I imagine if you just drifted apart from someone there might not be the need for a goodbye..

I have to say goodbye. I can’t let it go without saying something to signify we will never speak again. There are times when you just know it is the best thing to do, to walk away from a situation, and to make sure the other person knows the door is closed. If I didn’t say something, I would always be wondering what they thought, if they were coming back. For me, best to close that door firmly, without questions.

There has to be closer one way or the other. If you are looking at rekindling this relationship/friendship then I think you should give it some time and use this time to clear your head and find yourself, but if you just want to truly let go then you should try contacting this person and letting them know how you feel and at least try to end things on good terms or you will never be able to get them off of your mind and how you truly felt.

to me this sounds like you want to say good bye but can’t now. i am sorry to hear that. however, in the most cliche way to say this.. that’s life. some things are just a lose, lose situation, and you just have to deal with it the best you can.

sucks :(

If it was important to me to say good bye, I’d find a way to send an e-mail or note.

I’d do it without expecting a reply, however.

I challenge your assumption that your friendship is beyond repair.
I think the next call should be to say something other than good bye. “I’m sorry” is what I would say if only to say “I’m sorry we’ve been fighting”.

Tolerance for ambiguity is the prime signal of mental well-being.
Put that together with what @Captain_Fantasy just wrote. Good for you, @wunda.

I’m a fan of closure. To me it shows respect for the person as a whole regardless of the fallout.

It’s too late now, If it’s with 1 week or 2 then you can go for it…If not, it’s best to forget it and let it go

I need closure. Always. I had a friendship that somehow got left by the wayside some years ago…there wasn’t a defined falling-out, but we grew increasingly distant to the point where my best friend was honestly someone I didn’t greet when I saw her.

I did get closure a few years after we grew apart. Nothing official. We’ve had a few friendly conversations and managed to acknowledge the past without bringing up the shroud of our departed friendship. I don’t think we’ll ever be close again. But at least this way I know there were no hard feelings.

At a certain point the good-bye ends up being more for yourself. I would do it discreetly—@netgrrl suggested a note with no pressure for a response. I like that idea.