@tranquilsea There are too many pressures, I agree. I really wanna fight the power! But I feel trapped in the cycle, as @deni describes it.
@deni, I wish you didn’t have to be disgusted by it! There must be some other way :) The disgust you feel is partly the way we’ve been conditioned.
@Scooby Definitely good to have a bit of upkeep in the general area :)
@Neizvestnaya, I know exactly what you mean! Interesting take, I hadn’t thought of that before. As if shaving/grooming is used to exaggerate what is seen as our “natural” hairlessness relative to men.
@HTDC Unfair, totally. I think we should stage a protest! Fight the power! Love the hair! :D
@slick44 Of course you are a woman, but as women we are not naturally hairless… I guess I just want you to be able to see the less obvious aspects of the preference so many of us have.
@Sophief I’ve never used depilatory creams in the pubic area… does that work well? Because they advise against it on the packaging. Can you use it on the whole area? There’s some pretty sensitive junk down there :(
@slick44, @majorrich, @Seaofclouds, @wonderingwhy, @JeanPaulSartre, @BoBo1946, @Cruiser, @ucme, @Facade, @DominicX, @wundayatta, @faye, @tranquilsea, @stranger_in_a_strange_land, @deni, @Scooby, @Neizvestnaya, @HTDC, @Sophief – thank you all for your answers!! I guess another part of this question is that I want some adivce about what I should do… As I have described, my lovely and usually very open-minded boyfriend is stumbling at my request to shave or at least trim pubically, I think because he has never done it before and his own gendered issues related to maybe feeling less manly etc. I want to not care, but I do!! We have been sleeping together for 14 months now and over the past few months, every time I find it “untouched”, I feel a little disappointed. I don’t want thisto interfere with our sex life and fear it may eventually. We have talked about this, he knows how much it matters to me. A few months ago he said that, if I could come to terms with issues surrounding my own gendered relationship with my body hair, then he would consider dealing with his. Well, since then, I have taken it upon myself to groom in a number of styles, from fully removing everything to approaching full bush, to show that I am comfortable anyhow. Still he hasn’t done anything himself. I would like to be like those of you who can take it come as it may, and I used to be like that, but I’ve just got fed up of making unrequited efforts as I’ve got older. And somehow not shaving makes me feel better about myself, but not him. Should I talk to him? I’m certain we would just argue, and obviously he’s less likely to want to if we’re at each other’s throats.