Do I have commitment issues?

Nither do I, but sadley it still happens to me.You do not have commitment issues, you just dont like the unessasary feelings a relashionship can cause.In a wat it could be similar, but I do not think you have commitment issues.

How old are you? I think your age matters for this one.

I don’t see any problems with your feelings as long as you’re open with anyone you date for an extended time.

“Belonging to” someone is putting it pretty strongly. It’s possible to be in a deeply committed relationship and still be individuals. Not all people do it that way (and I tend to think of many of them as codependent relationships), but it’s certainly possible.

If you reach a point at which you’re happy and comfortable with who you are (maybe you’ve already reached that point – it took me a long, long time), then you may find the person that complements you without suppressing you.

@Likeradar I’m 17

Oh, good God, you shouldn’t “commit” to anyone for another decade, at least. What’s the rush? You’ve got an education, a job, independence, experience, travel, and fun to have….why would you want to find some sort of “ever, after” now?

I’m also a girl

@ducky_dnl You very well change your mind as you get older and more experienced. I think your attitude is fairly common for someone your age. Just don’t get so convinced that you don’t want a relationship that you pass up a great one because of a pre-determined mindset.

I mean I get an upsetting/depressed attitude when I think about dating a guy.

You’re young and not looking for anything serious. That’s quite normal to be honest. I know a lot of people like that, even in their early and mid-twenties. I’m quite the opposite though. It really just depends on you and who you are. Commitment just isn’t for you right now, but that could change in the future. Don’t worry about it love. It’s nothing serious.

You have never been in a relationship and have no idea what commitment means. Maybe when you grow up your outlook will change.

Nah, doesn’t sound like it.

I don’t think you have commitment issues, you just haven’t had the desire to start dating yet. That may change or it may not. I met a few women in college that were content with staying single and focusing on themselves and their careers.

Yeah you have commitment issues. You’re about to be committed to ten years hard labor!

Actually, you’d probably like that. It would mean you have no chance of having to deal with a relationship. Please give yourself a break. There are people who are 40 and have never been on a date. Relationships of a marital kind aren’t for everyone. Some people are asexual, and don’t need anything other than friends.

But at 17, in most cultures, that’s way too soon to be thinking about long term relationships, if not too soon to be thinking about dating. I hope you’re not a Morman or belong to another religion that marries its girls off young. For most of the Western world, though, you shouldn’t even think about this for years.

I want to date, but I’m nervous/scared by it. :/

@ducky_dnl That’s normal to some extent. Being nervous about it is one thing, being so scared of it that you run and hide in the other direction is another. My advice, if you decided you wanted to start dating, start slowly. Go on a double date with a friend to the movies or dinner. That way you have someone else there with you. Do not let anyone pressure you into dating or doing anything else until you are ready for it. There isn’t a timeline that says you must date by a certain point in your life. Just enjoy your youth.

Dating does not mean commitment. Or it doesn’t have to. It’s just having fun with a boy. You are putting the cart before the horse. Date first. Come to like someone first. And THEN you can start thinking about a longer term relationship. But even then, you don’t have to think beyond a few months. You are not signing your life away by going on a date.

Here’s another thing. You can always say “no.” You don’t have to go on a first date or on a second date, and you don’t have to agree to go steady or whatever it is you kids call it these days. Please do not feel obligated to agree to something just because you don’t want to hurt the guy’s feelings. This is about taking care of you and finding someone you like. Nothing is set in stone, and nothing has to happen that you don’t want to happen.

No – commitment issues would only apply when a person is experienced enough to know what they want. You aren’t there, yet.

If you are 17 and still in high school then you have no commitment issues. Once you’re out on your own or living with a partner while going to college and/or working and/maybe have a baby or two then you’ll be put to the test. For now, enjoy as much as you can without worrying about more than dating, having some fun and watching your health.

My dear @ducky_dnl : With all the uncertainties of life in general plus those associated with serious concerns about your health, you have every right to take things like relationships at whatever pace feel comfortable to you. I think it is unfair for others to suggest or insist you have commitment issues. For now, focus on those things that are important to you and enjoy your life as much as you can. When you are ready to make deeper emotional commitments you will know. At your age, you are free to date lots of people and to learn about you and what makes you happy and to heck with anyone pressuring you to make any commitments for which you don’t feel ready.