How do you conquer the awkwardness of the 'first time'?

This may sound corny, but there is ONLY ONE first time. Make it special…something to remember for the rest of your life. Don’t do it because you want to get that first time over with. Someone else will fill you in on all the usual cautionary things. But, you’re 15 and don’t have the benefit of years to back what I’m saying…make it special, Sweetheart. I’m so serious here.

Thing just progress naturally. You start by kissing. Then you explore each other’s bodies (a process you should take slowly to enjoy the pleasure that it gives). When your girlfriend is ready (she will take longer than you will), stop an put on your condom. Then proceed.

@MissA
Thanks alot, made me smile and im now ALOT less worried. Even though I shouldnt at the moment ahaha.

@marinelife, thanks. Made it sound ‘natural’. Apart from the condom part haha. Which obviously would have to ‘go down’ ;) Lol

@Fyrius I dont know what you mean

If you are smart, you will make sure your first time is with someone you trust and really care about. If you don’t have someone you feel that way about, don’t give in to the social pressure to “do it” so you can claim it as some accomplishment.

No matter what, put a condom on before you get started. Ask her to help if you want. It makes it less awkward!

@Dr_Lawrence
I would NEVER do it with someone I didnt know or wasn’t close to for the first time. Thats stupid & I dont give in to pressure.
Wouldnt it sound kinda ‘creepy’ though…
“Wanna help me put on a condom?” Just wondering aha

@ConfusedKid
Me neither. :D

Well, I was thinking the awkwardness of the first time would wear off after the first time, so just figuring it out as you go sounds like a fine approach. Which, on second thought, is not very helpful, and probably about to get modded.
I really shouldn’t reply to questions about sex until I have anything more intelligent to say about it.

@Fyrius, guess I see what your saying – but who wants to risk to mess it up the first time, would it leave room for a ‘second time’? Aha

It really is much better if you don’t think of having intercourse right away. When you are in a relationship, things often progress very naturally over time from kissing and “making out” to further exploration and then possibly intercourse. By then, you know each other and your physical and emotional reactions much better and the “first time” is much more likely to be natural and lovely.

@janbb is a wise and sensitive woman. You would be wise to give her advice some serious consideration, @ConfusedKid

@janbb
Even though I never intended to jump straight into intercourse (Haha, sounds like a euphamism or innuendo).
I never thought of things that way, and your completely right!

@janbb took the words right out of my mouth.

Oh – I can’t tell how nice and easy it gets once you are in that great relationship with a great girl. It’s really not awkward at all when you take your time.

:) thanks alot

Don’t make a huge effort to avoid awkwardness. Just be as confident as you can, and be prepared to laugh at the awkwardness. That makes it even more fun. :D

If you choose this to take place with someone you know well, and you are already emotionally intimate, it’s unlikely that there will be much awkwardness. You will probably have been close physically in other ways before this happens, and I hope you will have very special feelings for one another. You will be very glad in the long term if you are very sure that this is what you want to do, and it is not a decision you make in “heat” or, as others have said, under any pressure. The only good reason to do this is because you want to express love to your girl, and you are both ready physically and emotionally for the change this will make in your relationship.

You don’t. Stop worrying or you’ll make it even more awkward when the time comes.

@Dr_Lawrence Kid might also wait until he’s properly married. By then, trust and closeness issues ought to have worked themselves out.

Good things come to those who wait.

You’re 15! You shouldn’t even be worried about having sex. In my opinion that is way too young. (that is all I have to say) :/

15, do you have pubic hair? Why do you worry about sex at such an early age? Get a spine and don’t let group pressure let you do something you will regret later. You don’t need to f^&%k in order to be cool or to fit into a group. If your chick or friends don’t understand that, then dump them!

I think 15 is a little too young to be having sex. I know you have urges, but 15 years-old is really too young to understand the consequences and risks of sex. I agree with @antimatter. You are still a boy——enjoy “boy-dom” while it lasts. Sex and “getting it on” can wait until you’re older and more mature. If you can’t wait, be sure to use your head wisely, and use contraception. You may not like the idea of using birth control, but I speak from personal experience, use it. Accidents can and do happen! ;)

I see all the comments about me being to young and I agree nut if you actually read the description. I say that I was just wondering. I’m NOT planning on doing it now nor do I want to really, id rather wait – the question just sprung to mind

“nut”, I meant But

@ConfusedKid That was the way I interpreted your question.

Yeah I know you did. But others didnt.

@ConfusedKid Well, I’m glad you asked anyways. It shows you are conscientious about sex and girls, and that you are taking responsibility for any lovemaking in the future. Good for you. ;)

@MRSHINYSHOES, thanks :) but isn’t everyone my age ;) haha.