Why am I getting the urge to cheat on my girlfriend :( ?

It means you are 22 and have been going with the same person since you were 20.
Don’t worry. You are not the fist person in the world to think this way. Most people feel like this at different points in their lives, be they old, young, straight, gay, bi, male, female, theists or atheists. Relax. You’re normal.

but what do I do??? Is it better to stay together and risk finding something better? (not that I know that there is something better).. or is it better to end things and see where it takes me??

I know there is no real answer here, I’m just looking for opinions..

@bb9335 I know exactly how you feel. I went through the same stage. I decided to leave my boyfriend (of almost 3 years) to explore the dating world. I moved out, got my own apartment, and started dating other guys. Guess what? I never found a guy that even came close to how great my ex was. Dating isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. And all sex eventually gets boring. You could leave your girlfriend and start dating/having sex with other people. But eventually you’ll have the same urge all over again. Luckily I got back together with my ex and things are better than ever. But is losing your current girlfriend worth the risk? Really think about it.

I don’t know how open you ladies are but maybe you could suggest bringing someone else into the bed with you guys… and talk about it before hand so that you know what would be okay with her and you and for both of you….

would the feeling of cheating be greater than honesty? When i have this kind of problems I ask myself how I would feel if it was the other way around, and what I’d expect from somebody (in this case your girlfriend) to feel, react :( @ItalianPrincess1217 GA

You are not ready to settle down and have the urge to splurge. I would though let your S/O know your desires to be with others as it would be the cool thing to do.

I don’t want to leave my girlfriend, and I wouldn’t want her to leave me – but then how do I stop the urge other than giving into it??

@bb9335 You eventually will come to a point in your life where maturity will kick in and you’ll realize that cheating isn’t worth the pain it causes your partner.

Maybe you’re no longer in love.

There are so many possible reasons to have that urge. You could be bored with your life in general. It’s possible your girlfriend isn’t the right person for you and you are longing for something that she can’t give you. Or maybe your relationship could be getting stagnant and the two of you might need to try some new activities, either on your own or together. Are you repetitively doing the same things in or out of bed? Or, maybe you could have a fear of intimacy? Strong feelings can make people long for the easier, less emotionally involved excitement of a random hookup.

You’re young. You may not have learned how to authentically be yourself in your relationship and hiding yourself or constantly worrying about what the other person thinks can be exhausting.

Or, maybe you feel you haven’t sewed your oats yet and you’re wondering what you’ve missed out on. Only you know the real answer to these questions. I would suggest some serious soul searching and then an honest discussion with your girlfriend. Ask yourself what your relationship means to you, what you want from a relationship and what it will take to get it. Is your girlfriend someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are you afraid of being alone and hanging on to a relationship that isn’t right in order to avoid it? Would the two of you prefer an open relationship? Is there some other area in your life that could be affecting your relationship?

Just throwing stuff out there…

I think this happens to more people then will amit it. i think you get bored with the routine. and find yourself wanting some excitment. dos’nt mean you dont love the person anymore. maybe do some new things to get the excitment back.

Maybe some exotic role playing between you are your lover might satisfy that urge. The sexiest part of anyone is their brain! Between you and your girlfriend, you two should be able to make cheating seem dull by comparison. Talk to her and work out a plan!

@Dr_Lawrence… right on

@Dr_Lawrence
Absolutely great answer. Everyone needs to realize this.

You obviously don’t care less about her.

Because a males entire life’s purpose is to reproduce as many times as possible as fast as possible? Don’t make more out of it than there is.

@ru5150 She’s a girl.

OMG! she IS a girl, wow, still my thought goes both ways