Why do I feel this feeling and how to get rid of it?

This is difficult to hear and to deal with from a distance. Is there anyone close to you (physically and emotionally close) that you can talk to about these feelings?

They aren’t unusual feelings, either, especially at your age. But I don’t want to dismiss your statement by saying “Oh, everyone feels like that” or “Just get out and do something to take your mind off the way you feel.” (The first might be a valid statement, and the second may be good advice, but please understand that it’s not all that I have to say to you, or not a way for anyone to responsibly handle your statement.)

So… how long have you felt this way? Have you discussed this with anyone?

Most important of all… are you contemplating taking any drastic actions? If you are, then I would seriously consider calling a suicide prevention number right now.

I’ll be back with a number.

http://suicidehotlines.com/—phone numbers for every state.

Feelings aren’t real. You feel badly, and it is a transitory state. A lot of people your age don’t understand that feelings pass, and are replaced by different feelings, so when you feel horrible, it seems as if it will go on and on forever. Try to remember that you have never been afraid that if you started laughing, you wouldn’t be able to stop, right? King Solomon, who was supposed to have been very, very wise, had a ring on which was engraved, “This, too, shall pass.” He often looked at his ring both in good times, and in bad times. Get what I mean?

Next, millions upon millions of good people have never been to church, and never prayed. That’s not what distinguishes between good and bad. What distinguishes between good and bad, often comes down to how well you obey the Golden Rule. If you try to make sure that you do unto others as you would have them do unto you, you will be a good person no matter what. I promise.

Also, when we feel badly, sometimes it’s a sign that we could use a little help. If you want to know more about this, PM me, and I will tell you some ways to get assistance.

i have been feeling this feeling scince 6 months and i tryed to discuss it with my mother but she didn’t help at all

These feelings you are going through are signs that you can get a lot of help from discussing things with someone with experience helping teens who feel this way. This is not a way of saying that you are bad and no good in any way. These feelings show that you feel bad about yourself and you feel as if you will never feel good again.

The good news is that even feeling this bad will not last forever. You can get to feel better and more hopeful if you ask for help. Who can you talk to who will listen to your feelings that you can trust? They can help you find some help to work things out so you feel better.

Parents can be hard to help with this stuff sometimes. First of all, they’re around you all the time, so they sometimes get the (often mistaken) idea that they “know you”, so they don’t always hear what you say… they hear what they think you should be saying. Also, when you say something as serious as this to a parent, sometimes they fail to confront what is actually being said, and try to treat symptoms or “make that feeling go away” without actually facing up to it and dealing with it.

If you have a school counselor, or a teacher or coach that you trust, or a priest, minister or rabbi (even if you don’t go to church; these guys can help sometimes, without making it all about ‘your relationship with god’) that would be a good place to start.

@rere I know I felt the same way at 14. The good thing is that your life will begin to expand and bloom in just a couple years, and it is worth the pain now to make to then. 14 is a miserable age. I know a lot of older people who say how great it was to be a kid, but that isn’t my memory. 14 and 15 suck, but beyond that are great times, and, really, the joy of living.
Bare thru it. I know it’s hard. It’s worth it.

You sound very confused about life right now. Being religious and being a good person are two different things, and not necessarily connected. Talk to a teacher or guidance counselor at your school. Understand that many kids your age are going through a similar state of confusion. The important thing is to get some help.

It sounds as though you may be clinically depressed. Take this self-test and see how you come out.

If you are depressed, your feelings of wanting to die are not your natural feelings.

You need to tell someone around you (a school counselor, your parents, someone) and get some help with this. It is too big a burden for you to carry alone.

Please know that you are a good person. You deserve to live and live happily, and there is help out there for you.

We care her at Fluther. Please tell us how you are getting on.

If your mother didn’t listen, tell a friend’s mom or your guidance counselor at school, your doctor, or call a suicide hotline. They may not find you to be currently at-risk of suicide, but they will connect you with help.

What you are going through is hard and it feels beyond hopeless, but there is help and you can feel better.

You might be depressed.I get those feelings to and I have noone to turn to for it.So if you have someone that can please talk to someone and get help, because it can get worse.And maybe its just regular torturing horomones.Either way if you talk to someone you will feel better.

You feelings are very real – but they are also not permanent. You will feel this way until you are able to distract yourself with activities that are valuable and meaningful. Try finding the volunteer activity that you will enjoy the most.