Why are you child-free?

Child-free by choice, desire, design . . . hung out with the niece and nephew and Mom today and it was great. Came home to my own house with my two dogs just happy as a clam!

1.) I’m too young (19).
2.) You can’t make babies with a girl.
3.) They’re cute when they’re not mine.
4.) Anything with my DNA is destined to be miserable.
5.) I’d make a horrible mother.

I can’t imagine being responsible for bringing a life into a world full of suffering.
I see too much of my father in myself and I think I would make a very indifferent parent.
Birth control. I don’t believe in accidents.
Having sex with women.

Choice. I never wanted kids.

Since childhood I never wanted to be married or to birth a child, I’d seen so few happy women with children or with husbands that I was determined never to become one of them. As I aged then I softened a bit on the subject but then was never with a partner I could see as being the kind of man I’d want to father and be responsible to my child. Truthfully, I didn’t trust a man to even come through for me enough to gamble on giving him what I thought would be the ultimate bond, the idea of abandonment with a child was too great. Having a child these days isn’t an option for me anymore which is sad because in the past 5yrs, I’ve met several men I would have agreed to marry and have a child with. I kept the faith the right partner would come around and time just ran out for me to “have it all”.

Because I’m 20 and it’s not the right time. At. All.

Timing has never been right. Want to be financially stable to the point where I don’t need to work for the first 6 years of the babies life in addition to the last 4 months of pregnancy.

My partner and I are not ready. I don’t know when we will be either.

Any time that I have experienced a scare and found out it wasn’t a pregnancy, I have always felt myself go into panic mode. That my life will be thrown out of kilter and I won’t be able to do a whole lot of things I have wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to.

Once kids are in the picture, it is 18+ years of dedication that I cannot bring myself to bear at the moment.

Age = 26

I am not child-free by choice, but by circumstance. I regret it.

Because they grew up and moved out.

Because they grew up and I moved away. I stay in touch and will be visiting them soon.

Because I don’t want the stress children bring and am willing to go without the joy as well. I’ll get a cat.

Because I hate both kids and fucking.

I’m a youngin’ myself :)
Also, I have not yet earned the patience for all that :O

I watched my sister get preggers at 17. Then I hung out while she raised four kids total. I definitely got used to knowing that whenever I wanted I could just walk away from her house, and not have to worry about kids. Now, I think why would I want to put myself in that situation? No particularly good reasons come to mind.

The one big reason I think I am against it for myself is that there are already so many people on the planet who could use my help. I don’t think adding one or two of my own is going to make this a better world.

Childless by choice, and very hostile towards those that belittle me for my decision.

I don’t like kids, at least not for more than a few minutes at a time. I’m not fond of adults either though…

I don’t have the $$$$

My wife doesn’t want kids

Both of us have family medical histories that would doom any offspring we had

My mother-in-law would never leave us alone (she has “Baby rabies”) so I would be forced to kill her

All in all, it is a good thing I am clipped :)

“I don’t see Jerv, Jr. in this pit Jerv!” – Jervs MIL’s last words.

Check my site name

I’m child free for now. I wanted to wait for marriage before having kids. The wedding is less than 3 months away but I’m sure we’ll still hold off for another couple years before trying for kids. We want to enjoy our lives and be free to do what we want for a little while. We also want to make sure our finances are in order.

I’m not really a fan of kids, and I feel it is my duty to do what I can to keep my family line from being inflicted on the world yet again. Plus, I don’t see any mothers that are happy, really, truly, happy. Maybe the occasional “oh, that’s why you have kids” rewarding moment every 6 months, but it’s just too few and far between for me. It just seems like such a drain on your soul.

I am not ready. And after being around my best friends little sister, I damn well know I am not ready. I was there when she was born, I was there when she started talking, and walking, and all the other joys of parenting, but I don’t can’t do it right now.
But who knows what the future holds.

I want to commend the people on here who had the courage to say, “I didn’t choose to have children.” Why? Because I know that you probably have been asked a thousand times by people, because people look at you like you dropped in from Mars or worse….that there is something wrong with you for choosing to remain childless. I’m convinced that a lot of the people who do that are…frankly….a bit jealous.

Well, phooey on them! :)

It takes courage to make a stand and actually say, “No, thank you, not for me.” The same goes for people who choose to remain single and not marry.

I remember a Wanda Sykes comedy bit….where she talks about how she doesn’t have kids. (This is before she found a partner and did have children.) She talked about how she saw her friends have such constricted lives and how she relished her freedom without kids. That there were perks to being childless. She said (very paraphrased):

“Yeah, I go over to my friends houses….and they ask me, “Hey, so where have you been? Oh, really, Wanda….you’ve been to Jamaica? Wow. No, we aren’t going anywhere this summer. No…..we were going somewhere…but not now….hey, little Johnny here….he got braces on his teeth….open up your mouth, Johnny….show Wanda… our Jamaica…..yep, there’s our Jamaica…..why, we’re right on the beach!”

LOL!

Just saying Mother’s Day is also for anyone who ever had a mother.

I can barely take care of myself.

Toxins in the environment. Made us infertile. I guess its the future we made for ourselves. And also the world is overpopulated. Somebody had to make up for the fact the Duggars reproduce with all the responsibility of a rabbit.

@ru5150 Riiiiighttttt

@Blondesjon Wow, that’s quite a statement… I was pretty certain you actually have kids, or at least, are closely involved with some…my bad, if that was an incorrect assumption.

@nope I agree, the profile clearly states there are children involved – I feel sorry for them

I had a vasectomy at age 18, not wanting to bring anyone else into the world like myself (Aspergers Syndrome, but didn’t know what it was called back then). I married 25 years later; due to internal injuries she’d suffered, pregnancy would have been dangerous for Meg. We considered having the vasectomy reversed and doing the in vitro thing with Megs girlfriend as host-mother, but never got beyond the discussion phase. Too late now. It would be irresponsible to become a father at my age anyway; I’d likely not live long enough to see a child grow up.

I remember watching a video in high school that briefly looked at women who didn’t have children. That was probably the first moment when I realised that I didn’t have to have kids when I was older. It was such a good feeling, when everything just clicked and I suddenly saw all the options available to me.

The world doesn’t need any more children, and I don’t see myself as having a lifestyle that would be suitable to raise children in. I’m sure lots of people would say that I’m just not old enough to think about making babies, but I definitely plan on staying child-free forever.

By choice. Firstly (and probably most importantly) I feel that I am too young to have children right now. I want to enjoy my life without the responsibility of being a mum before I even think about whether or not I might want to have children in the future. I’m not one to make too many future plans but, right now, I’m not sure if I want children at all and so I will remain child-free until I know that I want kids and if that never happens then it’s fine by me. Lastly, I don’t have enough money to feed myself let alone a child. If I do decide to have kids at some point I would like to be financially stable so that I don’t have to rely on benefits to feed and cloth my children.

Children are an abomination visited by the Lord on those who defile themselves by engaging in sex.

@nope & @YARNLADY Um, I’m pretty sure @Blondesjon is joking.

@augustlan Oh, yeah, that must be it, wink, wink, nudge, nudge; ha, ha, of course