When you're with someone, if you can imagine your life without them, should you just move on?

Not necessarily. When my sister married the second time she told me that she would never feel like she couldn’t live without someone again. She felt that way about her first husband. She has been with her second husband for 25 years. I asked her about five years ago if she felt like she couldn’t live without him. She said no and reminded me that she had told me that many years before. Should she “move on?” Of course not.

Your details describe someone who likes the person they are with, but doesn’t seem to be in love or have found true love.

Yes, @perspicacious

Very true!

I think this is a healthy approach to self and relationship.

Being sad or disappointed is not the same as being devastated if a relationship ends.

Devastation usually is about insecurity and immaturity, and being able to live without someone doesn’t mean you value or love them any less, it just means that you are your own person and keep a healthy part of yourself reserved for yours truly.

Give too much of yourself away and thats where the devastation kicks in.

Imagining doesn’t mean this is how it will turn out, if you’re good with them for now, see how it goes, regardless of your eery divination powhaz, unless you just can’t help but envision a machete and some barbed wire in the not so distant future.

It should not be the sole criterion. It depends on what else is going on in the relationship. I love my husband very much, but I can picture life without him. Should I leave? No, we are very much a partnership and I an enjoying my life with him a lot.

@perspicacious @Coloma @marinelife
Yes, yes and yes. I’ll just add that it’s all what you want out of life. If you feel that you only can exist in a madly in love scenario, you’ll probably have several men…as that rarely is sustainable for years. But, if you’re in it for the long haul and they are genuinely good people and you are comfortable with them as a partner, that’s something to be happy about.

It’s all in what you want…and, your respect and feelings for them.

I’d add a few automatic weapons to @Symbeline s response.~

Seriously, there was only one person that I felt I couldn’t live without, but somehow I’m still breathing. I couldn’t go through that again. I could never see any point in a blah relationship, better free and uninvested emotionally.

I don’t want to imagine my boyfriend not in my life.

well if you’re not in a place in life where you’re very serious about relationships and you’re more interested in having fun and seeing what happens but not being set on finding someone to be with forever, then no. But if you are serious about relationships and you’re looking for your “life partner” then I guess it is silly to stay with someone you don’t “need” in your life. riight?!

I used to think I’d die without my man by my side then I grew up. He is not oxygen, love and life are not a melodramatic soap opera.