Ok, so I left my husband like 6 months ago and now he is failing with the money he should be giving me for our kids.. What can I do?

“Left” as in broke up?

@Draconess25 Yes, We broke up.

Does he care about the kids?

Contact the state. Get help.

He his illegal? Does that mean his wages are all off the books? If that is true, you can’t have anyone grab on to his wages. You might be out of luck.
There is a chance he might pay now. If you tell the state and they deport him, then there is no chance he will be able to pay.
One of the many problems with illegal immigration. Sorry.

Tell him the kids need it. If he really cares, he’ll listen.

Well as an international thing this sounds dificult. It hard enough when you’re both legal citizens but other than his good faith what can you do. This is not a man who is in the system so what can you do but rely on his love of his children. Maybe work on his sympathies for their well being.

There isn’t anything that you can do but put a fire under his ass and file for child support. I don’t know the legalities here in your situation, though.

You take him to court.

@lillycoyote
Yes but he’s an illegal so he’s basically already a fugitive.
Maybe Dog the Bounty Hunter

Not much you can really do since he is an illegal here. Perhaps there is a threat of reporting him to the authorities here and in Mexico that may motivate him to resume payments or you can threaten to do a Lorena Bobbitt on him when you find him!

You are still married. Unless you have a legal separation with court ordered child maintenance, there is no help available to you. I don’t know Mexican law. It may possible for you to get a default divorce in Mexico along with a judgment for child maintenance that the USA will enforce. I don’t know for sure, but I believe Mexico and the USA are among the nations who will enforce each other’s child support judgments. Talk to an attorney in Mexico; maybe you can find one who will help you for little or no fee. Good luck.

@SeventhSense He’s still responsible to provide support for the children that he has fathered. Other than taking him to court, she really has no recourse. Should I have suggested a mob hit? O.K. She should beg him or beg his relatives to please provide support for his children. If he won’t support his children voluntarily and If the courts can’t force him to provide child support then the answer to to the question should be: Sorry, you are shit out of luck, there is nothing you can do.

@lillycoyote
Yes but he’s not going to show up to court because he’ll be deported.

@SeventhSense He doesn’t have to show up in court to have a judgement made against him for child support.

@lillycoyote
Yes but I guess what I’m saying is that this is not a man who holds the laws of this country in high regard so acquiring anything from him will prove difficult. And if he is deported there will probably even less funds heading south.

@SeventhSense then why not tell her there’s nothing she can do? That she’s shit out of luck? At least if she goes through court proceedings there will be a paper trail, a record of her trying to hold hi accountable. There may come a day when he can pay child support and it won’t look good that she never asked for it. And, if that day comes, there will be a record of how in arrears he is.

Do you know who he works for? I would contact his boss and tell them that if you don’t get your money then you will report both of them. You kinda have both parties by the balls.

@lillycoyote
Well I was trying to be tactful but essentially yes, she is shit out of luck as is any woman who wants to force a man to do this. Ultimately she can send him to jail but then she only assures that she won’t get money.

@2late2be, are you close to his parents? Perhaps they can put the pressure on him to be consistent with the support his children? Are they aware of the circumstances of your separation?

What is the remedy for child support under Mexican law? Are you going to file for divorce or legal separation in Mexico?

Were your children born in the U.S.? If yes, they’re U.S. citizens. Perhaps you can get a short-term visa to return—lawfully and with documentation—as a custodial parent accompanying underaged citizens. I’m not familiar with federal customs and immigration law, so I’m offering nothing more than a mere thought.

If you can be physically present in Texas, you can probably find a legal aid organization. Under the attorney-client privilege, your husband’s status would be kept confidential. You could get some valid and reliable legal advice about your circumstances.

My heart goes out to you. It sounds as if you’ve had a great deal of pain and hardship.

@SeventhSense ”... she is shit out of luck as is any woman who wants to force a man to do this” Force a man to do what? To actually take responsibility for the children that he has fathered??!!??!! A woman shouldn’t have to force a man to do that. He should just, well, man up.

Of course. I wasn’t making a judgment call if that’s what you read.

@SeventhSense It sounded like that, using the word “force.” As though she didn’t have a right to ask the father of her children to take responsibility for them.

As though she didn’t have a right to ask the father of her children to take responsibility for them.
Again this is your implication not mine. Force simply means to compel and influence which is certainly what she is trying to do.

force

4.
power to influence, affect, or control; efficacious power: the force of circumstances; a force for law and order.