If you found out your boyfriend/girlfriend of 2 years was a drug dealer/user, what would you say/do?

No. If they were a user only, I’d try to help them get off it. But dealing is a dealbreaker for me and I would dump them without hesitation.

I’d give them a chance to quit the using and dealing. If they did not want to give up those things, I’d be done with the relationship right then.

Let them go!! Kick them out!! They’ll just drag you down with them as they spiral out of control, I’ve seen it for real, I have too much apathy for people who choose to ruin their lives in this way, I just don’t have the energy or inclination to help someone who deals in or takes drugs , it’s the being lied to that puts the brakes on any attempt from me in pointing out the error of their ways! :-/
It’s not something I’m programmed to deal with..

Leave.

Dealer? Get out of there. You can get very dead in the middle of a drug dealers firefight. Besides, most of them can’t shoot worth shit and tend to hit everything but what they’re aiming at. Just being around someone like this can earn you a prison sentence.

Get out the back, Jack; make a new plan, Stan….....don’t need to sicuss much, get yourself free.

I’d say goodbye in Art Garfunkel’s voice…not Paul Simon’s…and then just walk away.

Two years and she is just now finding this out? thats a little beyond realistic. there is no way a person can live with another person and not know they were not dealing drugs. the signs are there and obvious. this is a bad scenerio. no jury in the world would ever believe that she did not know this. where did all the money come from? he doesn’t work, but has plenty of money all the time. the signs are there and hard to ignore.

For her own safety, exiting the door is her only answer(if she’s not involved, herself).

Since it’s fiction, I guess i might say something like “But, you told me you didn’t do drugs.” If it were real, 2 years is a long time to remain ignorant of a drug habit.

Hit the road…....fast and never look back!

Leave. Cut off all communication. As soon as possible.

“It’s over. It’s not me, it’s you.”

@john65pennington Do you have an SO? If so, do you go to work with her/him? Maybe her protagonist’s SO deals drugs while he says he’s at work. That would explain being gone for hours and receiving income.

@bob_ LOL

Drugs isn’t specific enough. I have a problem with most of them, but not all.

I would ask her: “Are your drugs stimulants, downers, or psychedelics?”
If the answer is “psychedelics”.... then I would say, “No problem, start sharing with me, please.”

If the answer is “downers” or “stimulants”, then I’d offer her some psychedelics to set her head straight so she’d stop doing bad drugs.

Either serario, walk out the door!

Depends. What drugs is it they are using or dealing. If they are using things like meth or things that are really bad for you then i would want them to get help, not just shut the door on them. That is the last thing that would help someone that feels they need drugs to cope with things. If they are dealing then I would try to get them to stop. If you are with someone then you should love them and do whatever you can to help them with whatever problem they may have, show them that there is someone who really does care and won’t just turn their back on them.

Marijuana I don’t consider a drug so I am not referring to that when I think of drug dealers or users, I also wouldn’t leave someone over psychedelics. Like kraigmo said, only bad drugs would I make an issue out of

Have you ever watched the cable series, “Breaking Bad”?

No I havent

I don’t really know what I’d do unless it happened. I honestly don’t think it would change my love for him, but it may affect my trust which could overall affect my relationship.
I would try to work with him and understand his lifestyle, but it probably would be difficult.
Or I’d leave him alone and just be in denial about it, or just go back to normal life we were leading anyway.

I didn’t mean he was dealing drugs for two years.

These are all great answers :) Thanks so much.

jfos. been married to the same lady for 44 years. this womans friends, in two years, would have told her about the drugs. women love to talk and i will bet my badge that she knew his source of money. when tax time came around, she did not question why “they” did not fill out an income tax return? there is just no way she did not know.