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Do you have great news that you can't share?

Asked by Pandora (32436points) May 20th, 2010

Have you ever had great news that you felt you couldn’t share with people close to you because it would be a sore subject for them and would be like rubbing your good fortune in their face when they are down and out?
Did you share it anyway, or just jump for joy by yourself wishing you could share the news with someone? Is it wrong to keep it to yourself because your friend would be hurt if you didn’t share, or are you being a good friend in not sharing at this time?

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Trillian's avatar

I do have a tendency to censor myself with certain people. To this day my mother doesn’t know that I had a girlfriend for about eighteen months. We had some cool things happen that I couldn’t just tell my mom because of all the subsequent explanations that would have entailed…
I would not rub really good fortune in the face of someone who was really down unless I could do something to make that persons day or situation better.

marinelife's avatar

I have had news that I didn’t choose to share with certain people. Luckily, there is always someone you can share it with!

Lightlyseared's avatar

Yes. Sorry….

Pandora's avatar

My children are grown and my son is always away but luckily he had a layover last night nearby and we all go to have dinner together. Watching them talk and catch up with recent news, and how lucky happy and blessed they are in their future was awesome to see. I was never so proud. They laughed and teased each other like old times but I was very aware of the admiration and joy they share for each other. No longer competing with each other but just love and support. No longer the children of yesterday but the adults I only dreamt they would someday become. It was the best feeling in the world to see me dream come alive.
I would love to share this with 3 really close friends but unfortantly they have been feeling sad about the direction their childrens lives are taking and just don’t know how to help them out. I could tell them I won a million bucks and it wouldn’t bother them but I feel this will only make them feel worse about their kids. I know this isn’t 1 million worthy but last night was worth a billion to me.

shego's avatar

Yes, I do, but for my own personal reasons, I won’t share it.
I share these things with my boyfriend and my best friend, the only people in the world that I can trust.

filmfann's avatar

We bought a retirement house up north back in September.
I don’t talk much about it at work, because 3 people on my crew have recently lost their homes.
I just don’t want to come off like I’m smarter/better/richer than they are. In fact, I’m just lucky.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

I can’t really talk to my mom about my career plans because she would rather I move back to her town and work some crappy job I don’t enjoy than what I really want to be doing, where I live now.

Pandora's avatar

@filmfann -I can see where that would be hard to do with so many people loosing their homes. That really would suck to hear. Well congrats on the new home. One question. Assumming you live in the US. Why would you shoot north where it gets colder?

filmfann's avatar

@Pandora I have family in Northern Northern California. Both my sisters have homes there.
I am worried about how cold it gets during winter. For a house we weren’t living in, and we were keeping the temperature at 50, our propane bill was still over $200 a month.

Pandora's avatar

@filmfann Ouch. I live up north and I can’t see living all day in 50 degrees. I would either be an ice cube or I’m wearing 3 sets of thermal clothing. Perhaps you need to see about your home insulation. What is often required by home code regulations is the bare minimum. Yeah, my husband and I are moving south when he retires. We can’t see shoveling snow when we are in our 60s. Heck we can’t see it now, but we have no choice. The jobs are here.

Pandora's avatar

@mattbrowne Hey so long as the news isn’t something freaky or illegal or of a sexual nature, I’m all ears and will celebrate with you. :)

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