My single friends do not ask me out anymore since i am in a serious relationship?

Asked by suzie271 (284

) May 25th, 2010

I feel like since i entered the serious relationship I am in the single friends I use to hang out with don’t seem interested in hanging out with me anymore. Now I feel like I always have to be asking them what they are doing and what they are up to. It hurts.. How do I solve this?
Is it that they are jealous or intimidated by my being in a mature relationship ? What is it?... Can anyone answer this? I am female btw.
It is true that as a result of being in this relationship I don’t have as much time for going out and my relationship is my priority as I am in a part of my life where I want to get married (i.e late 20s).
However when I am available I always try to contact them.. I have also asked them to let me know when they are going out just incase I am available but they don’t unless I ask them…
What could be the cause of this?... Is it that they weren’t really my friends in the first place?

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When you do see them, what do you talk about?
Is it constantly “we” statements instead of “I” statements? Is everything about your fabulous new “mature” relationship?

Likeradar (19583

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When we meet we talk about all kinds of things.. I even ask them about their relationships… we talk anything.. I don’t mention my relationship at all unless they ask me

suzie271 (284

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Maybe they just feel like you are not as available. You can initiate contact for a while. Then you can ask them to do some initiating. Tell them you miss hearing from them.

marinelife (62485

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Do they feel left out of your life, now that you’re in a relationship? You have less time to spend with them, and that might be a difficult change for them to accept.

On a less kind note, could they be jealous? You have a boyfriend, and you’re very happy. The problem may be that they don’t and aren’t.

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When I got married I drifted away from my single friends as we started to have less and less in common. I think this is a pretty natural thing. It took a while, but my hubby and I gathered around us married friends, and then married friends with kids.

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