How do you pick yourself up after falling down?
I’ve been having a rough past couple of weeks. My veil went missing, my flower girls mother is being difficult, my fridge broke, my dog has been leaving me “gifts” in his crate when I come home, and I’ve been pretty low on cash. All in all, nothing seems to be going good. I’m trying to keep my head up, but more and more bad things keep coming my way. How do you stay positive during tough times? Any advice on how to steer clear of going into a depression (which I tend to do during times like these)?
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Gee, I’m so sorry. One thing I do is charge something. Have a credit card? I also watch a favorite movie. I hope things are better soon. GG
You have to just keep on keeping on. Sometimes, it will seem like nothing is going right and every amount of effort you put it doesn’t seem to affect the situation any.
Have a “rock bottom” day where you just do anything you want (or have to do to move past it). Drink, go running, go out, splurge, etc. Then the next day, wear your smile as soon as you wake up and try to see the good in life. Sometimes, you could only really depend on yourself to make yourself happy. It does get better…
@GrumpyGram Credit cards are part of the problem. My car recently broke and I had to buy a new one. I’ll be paying that off for the next 5 years. Then the fridge broke and we had to lease to own one from Aarons which will take 2 years to pay off. Ugh! I have enough debt already.
@Disc2021 Very true. Great advice!
Cancel the gift registry and hint for all cash. Then go visit a children’s hospital and volunteer to read aloud to the kids. Your troubles will all go away.
<<hugs>> Eat chocolate. Eat always helps. Or hold a cute baby animal.
After I’ve fallen down, emotionally or physically, I usually let myself lie there for a while. Don’t try so hard to avoid being depressed. Mope for a day or two. Have a private pity party, and cater it with comfort food. But then spend some time thinking about where you want to be and how to get there. Make a plan, give yourself a little kick in the butt, and get back up again. I always tell myself, “There’s still hope; you aren’t dead yet.”
Here’s an original one: let it happen!
I will explain: I heared just recently, what I always knew about myself, that it is a feminine psychological need to sometimes “go under”, experience just these few days of pain and minor depression, feel the difficulty, let the tears burst out and along with them express the pain and the suffering, it’s called “the low point” and what happens afterwards naturally is climbing vack up, usually with new conclusions and descisions.
Us humans, we spend so much energy not to feel our own pain, but usually, once we’ve let ourselfs feel it, we climb to a much higher point of view. But by preventing ourselfs from feeling it, we also prevent the climb up.
You are probably in such stress over getting married, which is natural, that everything seems BIG and meaningful. Crying, shouting and all forms of expressing the pain will just relieve the stress and you will feel great again. Don’t waist all this energy to keep the pain inside, just let it out and trust yourself that you will climb back up and feel better.
@Marva Thank you :) It’s a very exciting time but there’s a lot of extra stress also.
I sit down before I fall. I take a minute for myself, like some of the others have said, lean into it, it’s fighting to keep your head above water that wears you out. Relax, lay back and float until you have gathered some strength.
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