How do you deal with this situation?

Laugh it off and try again later. It happens.

It’s one indication that you are human. Don’t worry about it. When it starts to upset you, that’s when you are likely to begin developing a problem.

So its a common thing? Does it happen to most young people? im in my twenties and its so embarrasing when it happens to me. My girlfriend used to tell me that its ok and just relax, but women before her said things like “whats wrong?” and “we got a problem” things like that.

Neah, relax and don’t make such a big deal out of this, it also happened to me one time.I guess I just got distracted by some door that opened all of a sudden .:)))

Laugh it off, dunno what else to say at the moment.

Anyone who can’t relax and laugh it off with you has merely revealed herself as an undesirable companion.

@ dpworkin Thats true. Is there anyway to prevent this though? I mean i have had some pretty hot girlfriends and it would seem very strange to loose an erection with that kind of girl during sex, especially when she is very into it.

Act like it’s not such a big thing (that’s what she said) and don’t make him feel worse than he (probably) already does. If it’s recurring, bring it up casually and gently at another time.

@cornbird It doesn’t seem strange to me. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have something like that happen once in a while. I do know that if you become anxious about it you will find that it happens more and more often.

This only happened to me if it was a second or third round. But it also can happen if he is not being “excited” enough, or distracted in his head. But it’s nothing serious.

Step the game up? Try something new. Take a break, eat a TV dinner and try again.

If you are successful afterward, do a victory dance.

It’s not uncommon that as you get older you can loose your ability to be the man of steel all night long. If you are young and healthy you may want to consult with your doc or urologist as other health issues can affect you as well. While you are there ask for a sample of Viagra!

I personally have tried viagra before…and to me it doesnt make much of a difference. I also masterbate alot so i believe that could be the problem.

@cornbird Well there you go then! Save some for the sweetheart and problem solved!

See your physician. You may be having early stage prostitius.

Already consulted a physician. There is nothing physically wrong with jr… In some cases, he has made me proud.

It’s only ever happened to me with one particular partner and that’s because he suffered from hypertension/high blood pressure and his meds for it made it even worse. What was tragic is every time it would happen (not happen) then he’d be upset which made him more anxious for the next time as if he was waiting for it to fail and so it would.

If you are young and healthy and playing with cornbird jr. on your own too much then he might become a bit desensitized to partner sex or get confused at the difference in pressure and buildup delivered by your hands rather than another person’s body which moves all of it’s own accord.

To rule some things out then just up your health watch and cut out as much salt, sugar and alcohol as you can stand. When you play with conrbird jr. then try lightening your touch more and more, slowing down to see if you can teach him to get off that way. In your mind try to picture the partnered sex act, take your mind to recall what it feels like inside a body rather than your hand.

@Neizvestnaya Great advice. Have any of you women out there have gotten upset with your parter because of this? Some women may percieve this happens because the man does not find her attractive.

One thing you definitely do NOT want to do is say, “This has never happened before.” Just apologize and say that it will be fun to try again later. : )

What if its the first time you and the girl are doing it together?

@cornbird
When it first was happening, I didn’t know about health having anything to do with it so yeah, I took it personal as if he wasn’t into it or into me or whatever we were doing wasn’t arousing enough for him. At first he’d tell me he was just really tired or stressed and that everything was fine but it took awhile for him to admit it wasn’t a new phenomenom and for us both to learn his health was mostly to blame. Like you, he was young and he appeared seemingly healthy so I never suspected and was getting upset at emotions being put to blame.

beer and cigars.

Almost forgot, heavy smoking doesn’t help.

oh and sometimes while you are really into it, you think to yourself, “wow, we are really into it!” and she’s right there right where you always dreamed you wanted her to be and then suddenly you go limp because it’s so perfect because you are thinking about how perfect the moment is.

good sex is not about thinking.

I probably would wonder if he was stressed or really tired, but I’d never laugh at him. I personally would ask whats wrong, because I’m sure there’d be a reason for it. If it happened often, I’d be concerned for his health.

@charliecompany34- seriously, it happens even when everything’s great? You men have issues I hadn’t ever consider much. It used to seem to me that men were all about trying to keep that thing down and under control and now it’s about it not petering out at the 11th hour. Damn, maybe I don’t want one of those after all instead of a cooter.

@Neizvestnaya It happened to me when I was with this girl one time and we were really getting into it and I lost focus….and went limp. That was soooo embarassing cause I was already inside her(with a condom) and I had a nice erection and all of a sudden I went weak and she asked ” What wrong? Ughh…I think we have a problem”. I can remember though that I was thinking of how hot she was getting though, and I suppose that was the problem. It happens too, more often, when I try to put on the condom.

@cornbird
I wonder what would happen if you start playing with cornbird jr. with a condom on? Maybe he’ll get better used to the sensations.

Don’t sweat the small stuff and remember that it is all small stuff. (no pun intended)

Maybe doing it to much or just wanted to get over it fast, He could be work up to the point so he express himself faster. The next round will be better and longer, but if you get upset there will be no next round.