How can I make it so I can't be found?

If you are in danger, you may be able to be considered for the witness protection program. I am not sure what their requirements are but you may want to look into that…. good luck.

This story might give you ideas.

Does telling him that you’re cutting him out of your life not do the trick?

Obviously he knows your date of birth but does he know your SSN ?

What kind of resources does he have ? Can he afford the services of a good PI ? Does he have friends in law enforcement or government ?

It’s pretty difficult nowadays for someone to disappear with all the technology around.

Perhaps it might be worthwhile for you to consult with a really good PI and get their advice on what additional measures you can take.

Either that or a good attorney or a restraining order. You don’t specify whether you’re in any danger from him or not, so that makes it difficult to advise you.

A lot also depends upon how motivated he would be (or why) to find you.

I think that if someone is motivated enough, they would eventually be able to track you down.

If you are in danger then talk to the police or a lawyer. If you are not- then the measures you’ve described should be enough.

Some additional suggestions: let your family and friends know of your wish so that they do not inadvertently pass on your information; and google your personal information on a regular basis so that you can be assured it doesn’t crop up on the internet.

Sorry… I meant a different story about a Wired Magazine writer who attempted to disappear. I think it’s called “Vanished,” but I can find it right now.

A restraining order might be of value?

Get rid of your credit cards.

Consider moving to a different part of the country from where your father is.

Every person from your current life that you keep in touch with will be a lead that your father could follow to find you.

how to disapear

Delete or deactivate as many accounts of your as you can so you can erase some of the most recent searches on Google and other search engines like that. (Obviously you can register again as a different person but try to erase any accounts that may come up as top results in searches on Google and others. Good luck!

I don’t know much about disappearing, but..as another said, isn’t just cutting him out of your life enough?

Seems to me you wouldn’t even have to go to the trouble to change your name, just have unlisted numbers and address, move out of town….unless he is some sort of lunatic I’d think you could manage to avoid him for a long time, if not forever.

You’re grown now. You can choose who you want in your life and who you don’t. It sounds like your reasons are sound. Just cease contact.

I would advise you to be clear what you actually require. You may not have to cut yourself off from your entire past to severe your relationship with your father. Get some legal advise first. You may be able to accomplish all you need without making your future life so stressful.

Consult with an attorney for advice. Good luck!

Tell the rest of your family of your intent so they can keep your confidence.

If its a matter of safety talk to the police, then move, get a new job, change your name, and get a PO box. Be sure to tell your former employers that they can only give information to future employers once they are given proof of your approval to release information. They are not to release information about where you are currently staying or moving too. Same goes for family and get and unlisted number. Get a cell phone in the current state your living in and then move and keep that one. So if he ever gets a hold of your current cell he thinks you may still be in that state.
Be sure that any of your current friends know that they are not to give out your number to anyone without your consent.
When you move. Use your cell from your former state as the number of contact. I actually give them a useless number. They have my address. They can write if its something important. Most of the time its just for telemarketers to sell me crap.
If its not that drastic. Like everyone else said. Just tell him you want him out of your life and ignore him. He’ll eventually get the hint.

Hide everything. Delete your facebook account, change emails, everything.

Spread a convincing rumor that you’ve left the country while changing your location and identity. I think that is what I would do if I wanted someone persistent to leave me alone. Kill their will to find me by making it seem like more trouble than it’s worth.

The reasons why you want him out of your life could be a factor in what steps you should take to delete dad.

E.g., if you’re annoyed that he doesn’t return your calls and isn’t paying enough attention to you, then it might take very little effort on your part.

I cut my mother out of my life several years ago (I had very good reasons). Here’s what I did: I sent her a letter outlining the reasons I was doing what I was doing. I made it clear that for my own mental health, I wanted no further contact with her. Ever. That was it. Done. Worked like a charm.