How often is normal to see your S.O. if you live in the same city?

I would not consider a boyfriend I just saw once or twice a week a “significant other”. To me that is a dating relationship. I see my husband ever day, which is how I like it.

I think it depends on how long you have been together and exactly where you are in your relationship. Beyond that, it’s just a matter of what the two of you are comfortable with. Talk to your boyfriend about it. Ask him if he thinks you see each other enough or if he would like to see you more often. Tell him how you feel about it too. Then go from there.

Most of my relationships I saw my boyfriend almost every day. It would depend though. If you are both in school? Are you working? Do either of you have children? 30 minutes is kind of far, so I would probably not see him every day. Maybe 2–3 days a week.

It is whatever makes both of you comfortable.

Personally, I HATE seeing my significant other every day. I thrive on seeing them twice a week. But that’s just me. I think you guys could work on seeing each other more than twice a week, but I can see where this maybe a problem if you have to take the bus everytime and it’s a half an hour ride. Just tell him your concerns and I’m sure you’ll figure out a solution.

If you wish to increase the amount of time spent with him, then make sure to take it slow. You certainly don’t want him to feel pressured.

Time to pull out the handy city guide and start making plans to get out… by yourself!

OK I know that sounds odd, but hear me out. I’m trying to help, so just hear me out.

This will actually serve to show you truthfully what kind of relationship you have here. The hurdle of getting on the bus, to go to his place and vice versa can be used as a very convenient excuse. So first, just remove that excuse altogether. Don’t put pressure on the relationship in that area.

Instead, armed with your handy city guide, make plans to go to the art museum, the zoo, an outdoor summer park concert, the botanical gardens… you get the idea. Then call him up, and let him know that you are going, and that you’d like for him to come along. Don’t put pressure on him to fulfill an actual date (or to get on the bus). Just letting him know that you’ll be out and about enjoying life is all you need to do.

Then, after a few excursions, one or two extras per week, you’ll discover very quickly if he want s to spend more time with you or not. And you can accomplish this without ever having to put pressure on him to commit to extra time. Let his actions and responses speak to the questions you have.

For me it’s comfortable to live with my partners but with my current, we spent several months “seeing” each other every few days before agreeing to become mutually exclusive and then moving in together. I made it known up front that I was interested in him for a serious relationship but would keep my options open until he knew where his feelings were going. It was a bit uncomfortable for me, a new venture but it worked out well.

I’ve only been in two serious relationships, both of which i saw by SO everyday. in both relationships i started spending the night more and more often, and by two months in i never went back to my own house. I hated it the first time around, because it was a rather rocky relationship with my SO, but i was also trying to avoid home, because things with parents weren’t too swell, either.

Now, i’ve been living with my SO for almost 6 months, and we’re actually moving to our own places this month, odd, I know, but neither of us have much of a choice due to low finances. I’m hoping we’ll still be able to see each other about 3 times a week. maybe spend the weekends together and date during the work week.