Whats the appropriate time to wait after breaking up to get into a new relationship?

This is not evidence of him ‘moving on.’ Period.

i broke up with my girl friend and aksed some one out the same day

No, you ended it and there was nothing he could do about it so he moved on. Yours wasn’t exactly a long term relationship.

I don’t think there’s an “appropriate” amount of time. It’s a very individual decision.

My only thought is to be sure you’re seeing someone new because you’re genuinely interested in them. As opposed to getting back at the ex; fear of being alone or some other immature reason.

Somebody sounds jealous.

im not jealous :P lol
i just took it as him telling me that every time he told me he loved me or whatever was just bullshit.

Looks like he didn’t need much moving on either. There isn’t a set amount of time to move on to someone else, it’s all about what feels right to you. If you’re over him, and ready to start something new with someone else, then go for it. If not, wait a little til you are ready.

If you were only going out for a month, it doesn’t seem like there was time on either end to be much invested in the relationship, despite whatever protestations of love there were. Move on yourself.

There really isnt a limit.Its more like how long it takes you to get over it.And in this case it took him 1 and a half days.

You did the right thing to break it off when you felt that there wasn’t any long-term potential. And you obviously care about him as a person, or you wouldn’t be asking this question about his moving on to someone else so quickly and not asking for your own sake.

In response to your question, there isn’t enough information. I was seeing a guy for a couple months, and then something felt off. When I asked him, he confessed that he had run into an old college classmate of ours that he had always had a crush on. We broke up, and he started seeing her immediately. Yes, a minor blow to my pride, but you cannot make someone love you. The best part is that they have been happily married for 25 years.

After a month, I don’t think there is a real time frame for what is appropriate. A month is not very long. I don’t know why you broke up, but I assume you were unhappy with how he was treating you, or how you both were getting along, and maybe that was because he was not really into the relationship and that is why he simply moved onto the next girl fairly easily. You did the right thing. Most young men, I am assuming you are in high school, date to date, so they just go on to have another date. I’m sure he liked you, but I don’t think he was very emotionally invested.

but see one of the things that confuses me is the fact that i know he was emotionally invested. more than i was.
we pretty much broke up because i wasnt invested. not the other way around.

Once again the use of the word “Love” is shown to have been used inappropriately. Who thinks they’re “in love” and are together a month? come on. Of course it was bullshit. And it was bullshit if you said it to him, as evidenced by your breakup.
He can’t be moving on with his life if it hasn’t been disrupted, and I’d say that it hasn’t. People just say “I love you” as social noise. It means nothing.

@swifflexx3 So his way of avoiding dealing with his sadness is to just replace you I guess. Not very mature. Or, maybe he wants to hurt you. Just remember you broke up for a reason. Have fun with some girlfriends and try not to swell on it. Are you feeling jealous now that he has gone out on a date with someone else? Or, like you want to see if you can get him back? Or, like you want him to want you? Do your best to ignore these feelings, they f**k with your head and are destructive.

Everyone is different in their feelings and actions. If I may be so bold, I would like to share a valuable lesson offered by an inspirational speaker. I refer to it with alarming frequency. Please note: I am not saying this to you…just sharing something that helps me when I continue to mentally refer back to a situation that troubles me.

A mother and her teen-aged daughter were walking down the street, and it was obvious they were both peeved. The daughter turns to her mother and says, “Oh Mom, just build a bridge….and get OVER it!!”

It helps me to put my thoughts back into perspective instead of picking at a scab that will heal over time.

He’s resilient. You don’t have to feel guilty. Everybody wins. Move on.

Going out for a month? Go ahead and start dating.

typically, the answer to this question depends on whether or not you still want to be friends with the person. if you do, i’d suggest to any and everyone to tread lightly on the other’s feelings.

yeah he wanted to be friends.
then he got a girlfriend.

friends? yeah right.

exactly…he did not tread lightly, so now he has no chance of having you as a friend…at least not for sometime.

been there. i feel ya. ;)

It all depends on when the right time is…
Sometimes it takes very little time for someone to recover, and maybe he was going to end it too, pretty soon, because maybe he wasn’t feeling it, either
The right time to move on is when you no longer feel like you’re relying on that person for love any longer.
If he moved on after 1½ days, then maybe
a) he wasn’t feeling it, either
b) he’s maybe used to it…?
c) he’s a fast recoverer
d) he’s definitely a player
e) he was cheating….?
f) he was waiting for you to break up with him

And I know these might not be the most encouraging options, I’m not trying to make you sad or angry at him, but I’m just “thinking outside the box’
Enjoy :)
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Hey, at least he waited until after you broke up :-)

@bootonthroat The OP didn’t find out about the other person until they broke up. Maybe they didn’t hook up until the relationship was over…maybe they did. The point is, the OP made the right decision to break it off when she felt there wasn’t the right chemistry.

P.S. And I hope you are right…thus, the vote for ‘Great Answer’.

Once your daily life does not focus on the loss of your previous relationship, then you may be ready to be open to forming a new relationship without rebounding from one relationship to the next. That is my opinion. There is not scientific answer on which we can rely.

well i did the same thing and my ex had a new girlfriend in about 10 minutes so i know how it feels to have someone move on pretty fast but have you ever considered he felt nothing too?? i don’t wanna seem mean but it’s a very big posibility