Are you more of a leader, follower, or bystander?

None of the above. I’m more a go-it-aloner. I don’t have the motivational skill to lead, I hate following others, and I get bored/frustrated just being a bystander. I much prefer to be left alone to get things done on my own.

Leader – and it drives me nuts.

I’ve tried to be a follower, but I can always see ways something can be done better, faster or more efficiently.

I tried to be a bystander, but I get bored really fast.

I have friends that are both and they’re much less stressed and have more free time than me. So I tried, and failed.

If I could just learn to keep my mouth shut.

I can certainly lead; I operated in leadership roles in my career, but don’t these days so much. I don’t always choose to jump into a leadership role. As I’ve gotten older I sometimes just do what I do without accepting input from anyone. And, I find that I’m not concerned with what others are doing. I’m much more assertive professionally than in my personal life. In my personal life, I prefer to use consensus for decisions with friends and family. There are times when an edict must be proclaimed, however. There are just many things others think to be important that I do not, and in those instances I have a “do as you please” attitude. Kind of like the old saying, live and let live.

What does this count as…? If I’m in a group, I’ll lead or argue with the leader or lot. If someone is clearly better than me, I’ll follow, but I’ll sick my neck out for my part, and for the idea in general if I believe in it.

Loner. I don’t trust anyone enough to follow them, including myself. I don’t even want to stand by and watch it happen. I just want to to stay in my own little world.

I’m usually a bystander, but I’m happy to be a follower if someone comes along who I feel comfortable following. I’m a very poor leader, and I don’t bother with that anymore.

A leader.

@cprevite I feel your pain. I too have tried to step aside and say nothing. It doesn’t work, though, does it?

I think I’m a natural leader. But the thing is I don’t want people to follow me. For instance, in high school I was on the soccer team and the girls wanted me to be team captain. I didn’t know why. I didn’t talk much but I was still a good player. Team captains seemed more like a popularity vote. Anyways, I declined because I just did not want that kind of responsibility on me. At job settings I always did my job well and fast and helped any of my fellow co-workers with their jobs. Now I realized some of my bosses disliked me at first because I seemed like a threat to their jobs. Later they realized that those were not my ambitions so we’d be friends. I know I’m not a follower, don’t want to be a leader, so maybe I fit the bystander role best.

When it comes to having a laugh & fun, leader.
When the wife suggestively beckons, follower.
When I ask the kids to tidy their bedrooms, bystander.

I would consider myself a leader, because I AM a “control freak”. I could repeat everything that @cprevite said, that pretty much summed me up in a nutshell.

A leader, because I think I always know best. I always think my way is better than others, and I could never stand around watching and waiting.
I agree wholeheartedly with @cprevite

I’m a loner who has been pressed into leadership positions all my adult life. My perfectionism earned me the hatred of many, but I’ve saved a few lives also. Now I’m trying to be an amused spectator.

I’m like @downtide, I’m a go-it-aloner. I’m highly motivated, but lack the patience to be a good leader, I’m too tightly wound to be a bystander, alright already get er done. I’m too assertive to be a good follower.

I’m mostly a bystander who has been forced to be a leader at times.

Leader or follower, rarely a bystander. If I know a lot about what needs to get done, I do tend to take the lead. I like the lead, I liked being a Manager, planning, strategizing, etc. However, I am a great follower as long as I feel my leader is knowledgable and fair. Mostly what I care about is doing a great job.

I would say leader becuse I don’t want to follow the crowd if I know they are doing something wrong or unethical.I would rather try to take action than just sit back and let something awful happen.