How long should you be in a relationship before you start having sex?
Just curious as to what people will say to this question.
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It completely depends on the circumstances of the two people involved. Their ages, where they are in their lives, their level of attraction to the other person.
It doesn’t matter. When it feels right.
No less than 12 minutes, nor more than 70 years.
That will vary greatly depending on the maturity of the individuals involved.
A rule-of-thumb would be to first ensure that you both have the same intentions for the relationship (e.g. friends with benefits, summer fling, or long-term serious relationship, etc.).
Another rule-of-thumb is to not have sexual relations with anyone until after you’ve discussed sexually transmitted diseases, birth control (in heterosexual relationships) and the precautions that you each expect to take. Anyone who is not comfortable having that discussion should not be having sex with anyone but themselves.
Mutual compliance, absofuckinglutely immediately.Always use a french tickler on one’s pork sword though but.
I agree with everything @hearkat said. It depends on the people involved and the relationship they have. If you can’t have an open conversation with them about it, you aren’t ready to do it.
have sex, then think about the relationship!
Raaaauuuuuccccchhhhhh! Nevermore!
Depends on both activity partners’ discretion.
I myself would say there isn’t a set timer or grace period – you have sex when it feels right or you just can’t fucking help it. Time I suppose, is the only determinant.
I would say you should get to know the person’s personality. You have to try uncovering every minute detail about him before taking an action that is considered risky, because as we all know, it’s consequences are severe, and irrevocable. You should be aware that the person might not love you, but is trying to get to you. That is why I’d say you have sex after you get married, but most of all, you should be definite that you inquire the same rate of affection towards each other, not an urge for sexual pleasure. And as @Disc2021 stated above, when you feel that a bond is forming you will just have it. And yes time is the only determinant. :)
Seriously, preferably after marriage, if this is the first time! I’m assuming that you are young person and if you really are “in love” with this person, waiting will make it so special ! Having said that, in today’s World, that is rare for people to wait.
If you have been married and older….when it feel right!
With someone else or yourself?
There’s no single correct answer. Every couple is different.
I say until both parties involved have talked about what they want with the relationship and are both ready
Not until each one says “I DO” to each other.
Do a search on this site—this has been asked many many times. @john65pennington has a good specific answer for you.
@hearkat I know exactly what you mean, having been part of a triad; but the decision to have sex usually involves couples, even within a three-or-more-some.
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