Why is it that I love what i can't have?

Because you don’t really want it.

“The big mistake that men make is that when they turn thirteen or fourteen, and all of a sudden they’ve reached puberty, they believe that they like women. Actually, you’re just horny. It doesn’t mean that you like women any more at twenty-one than you did at ten.” — Jules Feiffer

Maybe what you are really in love with is the feeling of wanting to be in love.

Maybe what you are jealous of is not the girl (who didn’t even make your radar) but instead just the relationship itself.

If you spent some time looking at why it is that you seem to want love but avoid a relationship of your own, you may get close to the answer you seek.

Because you’re human. To be human is to know that the grass is always greener and to covet what you cannot have. Dong so means you fit in with the rest of the entire human race. Congrats… or something like that.

Since you can’t have it, you’re safe from rejection. You already know what the answer is. Likewise, if something happens and you do end up getting it then it’s super happy bonus time.

People will say it is human nature. I’m not sure I agree with that.

I think what you shared….is all that “macho posturing” and territorial stuff. He likes her and wants to be with her….and now, you think…“Hey, I want her, too!” It’s what drives Wall Street and advertising….see that Porsche….you WANT that Porsche don’t you? That guy in the commercial is driving that Porsche…you should too!

Forgive the objectification of a woman in this case…but that’s what it sounded like. It’s primal male stuff…roosters strutting…to get the same hen. Funnily enough it’s for the little speckled hen that the rooster didn’t even notice in the farmyard UNTIL the other rooster showed up. :)

most wonderful answers, thanks