Is this considered a double standard, and if it is, why is it acceptable (NSFW)

You’re probably asking the wrong crowd. There have been many discussions on Fluther about the size of penises – and the general consensus is that women (here, at least) don’t like huge dongs. <—I’ve never said that word before, but there’s a first time for everything.

That said, I myself am perfectly happy with an average sized penis.

A man does not have to accept it when a woman has small breasts.
A man can also just love it.

^^ I have a feeling @rebbel will get a lot of great answers for that. :)

@DrasticDreamer GA for “dong”.

I think it’s all just preference really. Sometimes people like certain things, but it doesn’t mean who they end up with absolutely has to have it. For instance I have a thing for Asian men, but that doesn’t mean I won’t date a guy who isn’t Asian.

Although the other week I was listening to the Savage Love Podcast and a woman called in about her thing for outty belly buttons, and how she loved a guy who had an inny and it really bothered her. Dan Savage simply said, if the person doesn’t have the trait that you absolutely need them to have to be romantically attracted to them, then you are allowed to break up with them.

Now I feel like I am rambling. What I mean is, I don’t know of any double standard out there, I guess most of the time it’s either a big deal or not to them. To each their own.

@jonsblond
Well, thank you.
I guess it is obvious that i am such a man…

The double standard exists because men are often convinced they need a large penis to sexually satisfy a woman, otherwise they feel inadequate. It’s a whole masculinity issue. And there are bitchy women who complain about small penises probably because they’re loose (see: Samantha from Sex and the City). A man can sexually satisfy a woman even if he has a small penis. So really, it’s not an actual issue of pleasure, it’s just two issues that are construed in different lights. It may be a double standard, but it doesn’t hold up in reality.

i just hear alot that a small penis is a deal breaker and i cant unserstand why? its not like guys can choose their size. im sure they didnt do it on purpose.

a small penis is a deal breaker if you are immature and don’t care about anything but sticking a huge wang up your vag in which case you can easily buy an oversized dildo or an overgrown cucumber. it’s not a big deal, plus…it’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.

@deni i agree.

I have not heard that a small penis is a deal breaker. Unless it is so small, a man cannot satisfy a women (which would have to be abnormally small), then it is not an issue with any women that I know.

Uh, what?? How many women get breast implants because they want to be more attractive to men? From my point of view, I think you have your premise completely backwards.

I don’t see a correlation; many men actually prefer small breasts.

Most of the women I’ve dated have had small breasts! :-/
there’s always someone for everyone I guess ;-)

From what I have noticed, men themselves create this idea that small penises are inadequate. I don’t know a single woman who would dump a guy over the size of his package but most men I know are ashamed at the thought that their penis might be considered small. If a man acts as if he is inadequate, then he becomes inadequate, no matter the size of his penis.

The weird thing is , I go for personality not breast size, the only issue I’ve ever had over my penis was my foreskin!! How weird is that?? :-/

I would consider people who don’t want to be with someone just because of breast or penis size to be shallow, so the double standard doesn’t exist in my head but I can see how you’d draw the conclusion that it does – for women, breasts aren’t considered THE thing that makes them ‘successful’ as women because it’s assumed that they’ll get laid no matter what…a penis, otoh, is considered the extension of what makes a man…it’s all very sad and gendered but that’s how some people think.

I am breast-size agnostic, as long as they aren’t too big. And I am now taking applications.

@mrentropy Define “too big”.

Here we go again. I’d refer yo to my last answer but I think the pertinent people already get the drift.
For the OP to make such a generalized statement is frivolous and uninformed. Small to medium penis is much preferable for many reasons. (I can’t bring myself to use that other word!)

I can handle tiny boobies on a a woman — it’s when her dong is bigger than mine that I hesitate.

@chyna Hard to say without a frame of reference. But if they’re so big and heavy they’re causing stretch marks, or they look like a watermelon waiting to burst, or if you need a wheeled cart to hold them up then that’s too big.

I’d need to see ‘em to give them a thumbs up or down.

You do know that is something no one has control over either?

Again, it’s all down to personal taste. Although, I suppose in some way it may have something to do as an attention getter. A woman with large breasts may initially get more attention from men just because they, er, stand out more.

I like small breasts. They age better. I do feel bad for guys with small dicks, but you play what you’re dealt.

@mrentropy I take it you never want to be with a woman who wants kids.

@casheroo I was married to a woman who had four kids. She always complained that her breasts were too small. But, no, I mean the artificially augmented ones that make boobs so big they hang down to the knees.

Don’t make me find a picture.

@mrentropy I know nothing of artificially augmented boobies, but I would think if they had been artificially enhanced, they would not be hanging. They would be pretty perky.

@chyna if you say so.

most of the women i know say that they would DUMP a guy if their penis is too small. and i know a lot of women. maybe i need less shallow friends?

Some women may well be attracted to larger endowments, but it seems many more concerned about the wallet in the back pocket than the package by the front pockets. As a lesbian, I could give a rat’s behind (for obvious reasons), but there has always been social pressure to live up to some amorphous standard of “beauty.” We often think it only applies to women, but this question would indicate that men also experience similar standards that may not be fair (although I think males perpetuate this standard for each other more than women perpetuate it for them).

Let’s not forget that a guy can tell a woman’s breast size before asking her out, leading to the dumping being about something else assuming he’s not a total moron.

@vampmoore “maybe i need less shallow friends?” Strong possibility.
Why would anyone in an intimate relationship be discussing the attributes of their partner with anyone anyway? That is a private matter.

@Trillian, same reason guys talk about the “attributes” of their partners to their friends. and i didnt say it had to be present partners. just partners in general.

I think it’s much more about how a man treats a woman when he’s not thinking about his penis. A dealbreaker would be a small penis on a jerk.

Wouldn’t a jerk be a deal-breaker regardless of factory equipment?

@stranger_in_a_strange_land Of course it would, duh, me. I’ve had a little wine and it’s very late where I am. Maybe you are just up very early?

@faye I’m surprised that I caught that. It’s 0450 here; insomnia and a full day of farm work ahead of me :^(

@vampmoore: Maybe it’s the attitude that men with small penises are more likely to have. I have been sexually involved with two men who had small penises. One apologized for the size of his penis. That was a huge turn off and I almost got up and put my pants back on. The other was overly timid and ask me if his penis was an adequate size after we had sex. Also a big turn off.

There is also the factor that maybe your friends were just pointing out their ex’s small penises because if you have a bad break-up, you’re happy to point out any flaws about your ex.

@KatawaGrey Yes, but knowing how men are, knowing how much the size of their penis means to them, I’d say that they were both trying to engage in a dialogue with you. They were looking for some reassurance. Not in a very effective way, granted, but considering the awkwardness of the subject and the fact that there is no manual for them to learn from to know how to address a woman, I’d say that they both could have used some feedback as a way of taking the next step in a tough conversation.
I know that what I’m about to say sounds very 1950’s and smacks of sexual politics but; I personally believe in letting a man know how much I’m enjoying him. And since I already know that a man may feel less than adequate I think that it’s not only acceptable but desirable to discuss dimensions and pleasure factors.
Now, if you weren’t satisfied, I do not suggest faking it, or lying. But if you care about him and are with him in a relationship he definitely needs to know how great you feel, and that he can make you…you know. ;-)

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My own opinion is as long as it’s not smaller or shorter than my own fingers then there won’t be any concrete problem during intercourse but I do admit I like the look of a bigger one and like to play with them more than the little ones. Personal preference not so much to do with utility.

This is why I hate cook outs. “What’d you think of that wiener? Was it all beef, or was it a turkey?”

Suddenly, I’m feeling inadequate :(