Why do men watch porn?

Men watch porn. This is a fact of life, like the sun rising in the east, or orange not rhyming with anything. Your boyfriend is not the only one like this. He might be a little more into it than some others, but the fact that he watches porn doesn’t mean he’s unsatisfied or is attracted to people in porn movies more than he is to you. This is the trap of insecurity that a lot of girls fall into. My best friend gets angry every time her boyfriend mentions his obsession with porn, because she’s incredibly insecure. She mistakes it as more evidence of him not being attracted to her, that he needs to turn to porn. That’s not it. Men watch it simply to satisfy a biological urge, it could never replace you. But he can’t always be with you. That’s where his hand + the porn comes in ;)

Long story short is that males of any species (humans included) want to have sex. Lots of sex. Some more than others, but we really are hardwired to spread our seed far and wide.

Relationships and marriages are a social construct and do not alter biology.
Unlike females, having children does nothing to a man’s biology either.

It’s also possible that he views porn so that you don’t get too “saddlesore” :D

Your relationship sounds normal to me, except about the orgasm part. I’d work on that. Fast.

Porn? There is such a thing as too much. It can be addictive like anything else.

If you are having sex every day, my guess is he just likes it – and is aroused by it – but it’s more like sports – not a sick addiction – or he wouldn’t be making love to you daily – and you’d be describing the relationship differently.

Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Telling us isn’t helping the situation,

On that note, porn is a good thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re married, engaged, or just dating. It’s not a bad thing.. You say you have sex all the time.. Just be happy he’s not using the porn as a substitute for having sex with you. Then you’d have a real problem.

He most likely has a large amount of porn from keeping it over the years. The amount of porn he has does not necessarily indicate how often he looks at it. Have you asked him how often he looks at it?

As for why, I think there are various reasons people (men and women) look at porn. Some look in order to get turned on while other’s really enjoy watching for entertainment. If he is using it as a means of satisfaction (along with masturbation), he may have a higher libido than you do. You say you have sex almost every day, but have you ever talked about how much he actually would like to have sex (like would he prefer it every day or maybe even multiple times a day)? Have you asked him why he looks at it?

For me personally, I don’t mind if my husband looks at is and he doesn’t mind if I do. As long as it is not interfering with our sex life, we are happy. If porn and masturbation ever interfered with our relationship (as in one of us was doing that instead of being intimate with the other), we would talk about it and go from there to see what we could do to fix our relationship.

Dump the boyfriend. Learn how to have amazing orgasms. And THEN start having sex. A+ advice, if I do say so myself.
And men are just gross. They like porn because it feels great to have an orgasm. And they’re so obsessed with the female form.

@meagan I like porn. What does that make me?

@chels Chels?

@chels I would say “secure and self-confident”.

Personally, I would never want to be in a relationship with a woman that felt threatened by a bunch of pictures. I prefer women with a healthy dose of self-esteem.

@le_inferno, “orange not rhyming with anything”... there is one word, considered to be a pararhyme for orange, it’s lozenge. Another word with no full rhyme partner & only one pararhyme… silver. Poor silver & orange, voted least likely to end a sentence in poetry.

I’m a girl, I actually watch it sometimes with my bf lol. We’ve been together 5 years.

I will say that I think it’s understandable the basic feeling of “my boyfriend is staring at naked women for an hour a day” and to feel that maybe he compares you to them. but in reality he probably doesn’t. when i watch porn, which isn’t often but fairly often, i never ever ever think that i would want any penis in it to replace my boyfriend, ya know? that would be silly. because that is all porn is—penis, vagina, and usually a girl with too much makeup on. there is nothing emotional about it. your boyfriend, my boyfriend, is way more than just a penis. there are emotions and tons of love and having sex i dont think can even be compared to a video of strangers. when you really think about it, its kinda immature. it’ll never replace you. but really you just need to talk to him about it. i was concerned about this one day when my boyfriend pointed out his collection to me (which was only a few DVDs, had it been a thousand i would have probably been a little more “ehhh”) but still, it helped a ton.

that being said, you really should work on having an orgasm. for the first 3 months my boyfriend and i were together, we had a lot of sex and i never had an orgasm. i just didn’t care…it’s a lot of work for me to orgasm during sex and many times he would come and i just didn’t want to exert the effort to tell him to finish the job because it wasn’t that important to me, until i said “enough is enough” and we talked about it, probably literally for 5 hours. then everything changed…sex wasn’t just about him coming anymore, it was a joint effort, and now when he makes me orgasm his face lights up like a little kid on christmas. it has changed our relationship and sex in a way i’ve never experienced before. seriously. try it. and if your boyfriend wont work with you in the sack and do what you need to orgasm then i would consider him to be not worth being with.

@rpmpseudonym Just made up this imperfect rhyme, based on your “challenge” – perhaps amusing?

Killed her,
Chilled her.
Willed her
My Silver.

They are fascinated with most things that can facilitate pleasure with the minimum of their own effort? Think about it, a guy can sit with a beer in one hand, stinky unwashed ungroomed and with his other hand, have all the orgasms he wants. No sweating, no acrobatics, no taking time to arouse a partner or be body conscious. That and I suspect they like a change of scenery- checking out other people’s ass pimples, shaving bumps, the myriad of fake boob shapes see in full light what the insides of buttholes look like all stretched out like a cow giving birth.