Yesterday i had serious anger control problems and did really bad in my sports event!! Still cant believe it! Please help?

Just because you got angry doesn’t mean you have anger control problems. Strong emotions do not mean you have a mental disease. Control you anger; you can do that. No sympathy or drugs!

i do i cant control it. and its really often. trust me i know what am saying

Well, you say in you description that you just sat in a corner. That sounds kind of settle to me? Anger is something all have, the lack of control attributes, however, when the anger begins to be a danger to others around or to yourself. Anger Management is a quite big field in psychology and there are lot of places to go for help. I still suggest you try it out yourself to simply calm down, breathe and accept the fact that you maybe had a bad day. We all do.

The first thing you have to do is to be aware that you are feeling anger. Do not try to fight it, because that is only going to create a loop where you fail and then become angrier. Now focus attention on your anger. What specifically is making you angry? The more that you are willing to accept your anger and work through it rather than against it, the more likely that you will be able to control it.

LIke @LostInParadise suggested, give up the idea you can control your anger. Instead, you can distance yourself from it psychologically. Like, “oh dear, look how angry I am.” As if you weren’t actually yourself but you were watching someone else. “That dude sure is angry!”

Let the feeling be, but watch it as a disinterested bystander. Even if you are very attached to the feeling, watch that attachment as a disinterested bystander.

Breathing helps. A few deep breaths. Then giving up your attachment to doing well. “I guess I’m not going to do well. Well, I’ll just do what I do, and that’ll be enough. Maybe I’ll just focus on my form. I don’t care what happens because it’s now out of my control. Whatever happens will happen.”

This is real stuff. It’s not a tactic to do better. At a certain point, it is your wanting that is making you lose control and enjoyment. You may not be able to bring back control, but at least you can bring back enjoyment. And who knows? Maybe when you enjoy what you’re doing, you’ll do better.

Give up, man!

“Out of control anger” makes me think of a person who stomps around, madly waving his arms, yelling, cursing, kicking over tables, and breaking things.

You went and sat in a corner. For the 3rd throw, you made a reasoned decision in order to stay in the match and not dq.

You’re not gonna get nominated for the Out of Control Anger poster boy if you keep that up.

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Now apparently, you believe your heightened emotional state negatively affected your performance. I agree with other posters here that anger, like any emotion, is typically the result of choice. Just because you reject alternative action when in the midst of anger doesn’t mean you can’t control it. You just need to learn how.

I’ve learned to laugh at myself. That helps me get distance from the anger. Practice breathing exercises. And if you’re throwing discus, then you already know the importance of habitually following a precise sequence of steps leading up to the throw… which is specifically designed to help you focus on the purest, most efficient, least distracting movements. Focus only on the next throw, not what happened before.

You only have a serious anger control problem if you’ve displayed such anger in other areas of your life, under different circumstances, and under relatively minor situations that normally would not affect most other people to such a degree. Do you display such fits of anger elsewhere in your everyday life, such as at work or school? Are you easily angered by certain minor situations? If so, then you do have an anger managment issue. But two or three outbursts at a sports event do not necessarily mean that you have a serious anger control problem. Perhaps you were under great pressure, from yourself (or others) to do well, and because you wanted to do well, you messed up. That would make most people mad. Sometimes when one is tired, or has a lot of “pent-up” tension from everyday matters, there is a much greater propensity to blow up. I would assess your situation first, and ask yourself, “Am I like this often or even regularly to myself and/or to others?” If so, then you might consider anger management classes in the future, or rely on self-help with the aid of books on the subject. Someone with real anger issues needs to learn how to control himself, so as to not harm others or himself.