Why my sister don't want her child?

I think the only thing you can really do at this point is try to rebuild the relationship with your niece. Send her a letter explaining your side of things and letting her know that you want to be her aunt and that you would like the chance to get to know her again. She may or may not be open to it, but you won’t know unless you try. You could try to petition the courts for custody (if that was something you wanted), but I honestly doubt you would get it after all this time has passed. She is 17 and will soon be a legal adult and able to make her own decisions.
I would look at your niece and your sister as separate issues and not try to combine them as one. Your sister had a reason for her actions and has made her choice. If you want to improve your relationship with your sister, handle that separately from trying to rebuild things with your niece.

Some people are just messed up.
You might do well to talk to a lawyer.

@ Seaofclouds

I have found her on the internet on something like Myspace. She has been somewhat talkin to me since about a couple weeks ago. That is what I asked for, just for the contact. I did explain my feelings and my take on what had occurred at that time. She stated that she had no anger on me or her grandmother, but, was very angry at her mother and father for not taking responsibility of her or even doing something different than what they have done. With the father’s background, I dont think he would have be awarded his daughter. So, as of this day, my niece as somewhat conversated with me, my mother as also written her granddaughter on what she feels and her thoughts. I have let my niece know that I love her, am not here to judge and to make sure she can trust me to some extent. I understand that the people that has her and the aunts of mine that have influenced her in a negative way, has given her a reason to respond how she has. However, I explained my side, I opened my heart to hear what she has to say. I feel guilty, ashamed, and confused on this issue. All I can do is do what I can for my niece, show her how much I love her and how I am by her side no matter what.

By law, I have no rights. Accusations are not my thing, but, feelings on somethings that don’t feel right is my concern.

It sounds like you are off to a good start. I doubt there was much you could have done back when this all happened, so try to remember that. You can’t change the past, but you can influence the future. Be there for your niece and be a good role model for her.

Trying to communicate with her, now that she is older, seems like the best thing. Keep trying, show her you care, and that you can be there for her now and for the future—as you know, there is not much you can do about what has happened in the past.

Why didn’t anyone in your family step up and get custody of her in the begining?

You can agree with her that her parents were terrible parents, she didn’t deserve what happened to her, and apologize profusely for not rescuing her from her fate when it could have made a difference in her life.

You will never be able to undo what’s been done to her, and her sense of abandonment. All the family can do is hope for forgiveness, and love her unconditionally.

Build bridges to a relationship. You’re doing great.

What country are you from?

@cheebdragon- They contacted my mother,but, she didn’t have stable housing. I wasn’t even in a position to take her. Having my own skeletons in my closet. The person that interferred was an aunt of mine that was not a good choice to be around her. However, the person that the state placed her with was a cousin. Not even by blood. My niece was placed in that home based on the lies of my aunt and the woman that has bein raising her. There is not much we could have done after based on whatever happened when my older sister went to court. She NEVER told us anything. We asked quite a bit to know what could or may have been done, if anything. Me and my mother have no clue what was told when it occurred. Not to long ago, I asked about my niece since her 17th B-day was coming up if she was going to get her anything; which I knew she wasn’t, but, prayed she would, she told me that they took my niece based on child abuse. Well, knowing of what my eyes seen as my niece was little, I knew something was going on. My sister was mainly talking to the people that has her daughter. My sister would always say that the lady was her mother and not our mom. So, alot of vital information went unheard. Taking it day by day and being faithful with Jesus, is all I can do. What I can do physically, write her, let her know that i’ve never stopped loving her and missing her dearly. Letting her know how it affected me and not just her, expressing to her that I NEVER forgot about her, showing her that I have never judged her for what she may have done or said, and that I respect how she feels as a woman, now that she’s all grown up lolol.

Knowing that my older sister has lied to my niece about me and her grandmother, knowing that the person that has my niece has also lied to her, knowing that my aunts have lied to her…....... ITS CRAZIE!!!!!!! These people have hated me and my mother, these people have manipulated my niece, these people have decieved my niece, and who knows what else they have done. Accusations may fly like they have already done, I don’t want to go to authorities and say anything. I have no rights. I don’t have evidence to support my accusations. My older sister knows what is and has been knowing all along, she just don’t tell me and her mother( which we have the same mother by the way, not the other lady that she says is like her mother; not even close). My mother is kool, kind, compassionate, supportive, motivating, and unconditionally loving. With what has taken place, the tears have been nonstop.

I have been in contact with my niece for about mayb a few weeks now, not much like you would talking to your best friend, but, thankful for that. Im taking it slow, but, letting her know that I am here for her, PERIOD. Letting her know that what they have told her and what I know is truth about me and what really happend. I am not here to keep secrets if someone asks or if its need be, I let truth be known, I think she respects me for being honest, based on her response of THE TRUTH OF WHAT TOOK PLACE AND WHAT IS STILL HAPPENING. I showed her WHO I AM. If you got a facebook, I can let you all know exactly what has been happening. ......... If u like. I need outside support, I need outside friends that can be there not only to answer questions on here, but to be a best friend with a person that knows how to be a friend. I thank you all, all, for the helpful, motivating, and supportive advice that has been given to me to keep my faith not only in spirit, but, also in flesh :) :) :)