I think the most pervasive and damaging form of stigma is where people stigmatize themselves. One form of this came out in a question I asked a couple of days ago about why people refuse to get therapy. There were so many reasons, but some of them were people thinking they should be able to handle their problems on their own, fear of discussing personal issues with a stranger, a belief that therapy is mumbo-jumbo and won’t do any good, and more.
People believe that others will draw back from them if they divulge that they are depressed or a have some other disorder. I was talking to a lawyer a couple of days ago, and he said he couldn’t afford to do things to take care of his depression, such as having a regular sleep schedule or getting regular exercise and decent food because he had to pull all nighters all the time just to do his work and have an opportunity to make partner. Who knows how often he saw his kids?
I believe there is a pervasive belief in society that depression isn’t real. It’s attention seeking behavior. People could easily pull themselves out of it if they wanted to. I feel like I hear this idea all the time. People don’t understand and don’t believe that depression is a real illness, and they probably think that bipolar disorder and schizophrenia are real craziness—talking to people who don’t exist and seeming to be very scary when you see them in public.
I’ve read that, by some estimates, one in five people in the United States is mentally ill. Take a look around you. Can you tell which ones are mentally ill? Do you know?
If all of them “came out,” then it would be much more difficult for people to stigmatize them. They would start to understand that disabilities rights affects many people. It is as significant as racial discrimination.
In a way, the self-stigmatization proves the critics right. People with mental health issues can take care of themselves. They don’t need attention from others. They can handle it on their own. No one particular cares or even thinks about quality of life issues or economic productivity issues. Let’s save money on health care by denying it. Never mind that the amount of productivity you lose is far greater than your savings. You can see the savings. The productivity loss—well, you can never prove it was lost in the first place. History follows only one course.
Stigmatizing the mentally ill is certainly another form of shooting ourselves in our collective feet. We should be dancing in the streets because of all the bullets flying at the ground. I am skeptical that the stigma against the mentally ill is lessening significantly. There’s a difference between intellectual understanding of mental health disorders and our gut feelings.
I’m lucky. Or unlucky, depending on how you look at it. I only tell my story under conditions of anonymity: to my mental health care providers; to my wife; to my support groups; online. My family doesn’t know. My work doesn’t know. I can’t see ever being willing to change that as long as I am healthy enough to pass for well.