What would it take to insult you?

I feel insulted when someone assumes I had bad intentions, purposefully tried to hurt them, especially if it is a family member or someone I have known for a long time, and I feel very dissappointed they would think so negatively of me.

Well I’m a fat chick and I don’t mind being called fat or anything but what I do mind is when people start thinking I’m stupid because of my weight or the fact that I can’t do anything, and I can.

Naive things like that.

I don’t insult easily at all. I get amused more often than angry. I spend some of my time on another Q&A site called www.sodahead.com and it is very heavily far right wing. I get some real doozies of insults there, and end up getting a good laugh out of the silly, petty way some people react unless you walk in perfect lockstep with their beliefs. I think the fun of needling such types takes all the sting out of their attempted attacks.

Very little. Questioning my expertise, instructing me on how to behave, monitoring my language for profanity, continuing to irritate me after having been warned not to. I could go on; so could a lot of the people who know me on here. I’m very volatile.

People insulting my lovers.

If people assume I’m weak or stupid, so the better for me, More of a surprise element when I fuck them up….

I find condescension in general to be insulting. Can’t stand it. I also cannot stand it when I am ignored deliberately, not taken seriously, or not believed. And yeah, I find homophobic slurs to be insulting as well. I don’t care if I “shouldn’t find that insulting”, I do.

Oh, homophobia and racism absolutely inflame me.

@DominicX I also can’t stand when I am ignored, not believed, or condescended to, but I don’t feel insulted in those instances, I feel frustrated and sometimes pissed off. I found your answer interesting.

Like @DominicX, condescension hits a nerve that isn’t easy to hit.

It would take a lot to personally insult me. I am too optimistic to allow what others say to affect me.

Yes, I’m with the @DominicX crowd. I don’t find much insulting unless I feel that someone is intentionally trying to insult me just for sport, that’s just mean. But condescension and being patronized, that I do find insulting.

I hate rude people that cant say anything positive. I am offended by the BS and by lack of integrity.

Tell me I’m a bad parent.

I’m not really sure I CAN be insulted. If I could, it would probably involve questioning my honor or integrity.

I usually careless about foul words but what I can’t stand is disrespectful manner.

Little kids or young teenagers who act disrespectful towards me. Makes me want to whack them. Lol.

People assuming my youthful appearance = stupidity and/or naïveté.

Ignorance and intolerance infuriate me. People who argue with me on the basis of their ignorance and intolerance insult me.

Maligning my friends, family, character, beliefs, and values, disrespect of my person and my work.

@aprilsimnel You can often turn that to your advantage.

Don’t tell me that zombies should be anything more than Romero’s vision. Fucking remakes.

When someone intentionally says something purely to ruffle my feathers. I have a completely different reaction if it is someone who doesn’t know my views on the topic.

How have I dealt with the insult? Two examples:
* For my racist brother-in-law of 27 years, I’ve given up attempting to discuss it with him and just keep my mouth shut…maybe a little eye-rolling.
* I introduced a participant of my hotel management class to the facilitator of the sales class she would soon be attending. He told her that she would enjoy his class more than mine. As soon as the student left our company, I gave him my opinion on his comment in private, and I wasn’t the most calm I’ve ever been.

If someone says something about my children, I’m terribly insulted. I wouldn’t get insulted if someone called me fat, as, it’s true, so what do I care? I get insulted if someone insinuates I’m not doing my job well at work. I’ve had an issue with a co worker that has more time at the job, but isn’t as well versed as I am on some policies and procedures. She’s complained about me to the higher ups and they know she’s full of shit, but I still find it insulting.

I’m offended whenever someone makes a fake apology.

Such as:
“I’m sorry if my words offended anyone”
“I’m sorry if anyone was hurt by my actions”

Both those are fake apologies because the person is apologizing for peoples’ reactions instead of his or her own original actions.

@Kraigmo I disagree. I don’t think those are necessarily fake apologies. Maybe someone said something that they think is no big deal and the other person is very hurt by their words?

@JLeslie , in those cases, there is a subtle difference that needs to be made. The person making the apology should say “I’m sorry THAT my words offended.” Not “if”.

But usually, at least in public apologies, they say “if”.

impugning my honesty and/or integrity angers me, not much else does.

@JLeslie These apologies seem to fail to take responsibility for their actions. I would prefer:

I am sorry that the way I expressed myself caused pain to some of you. That was not my intention.
or
I am sorry the way I behaved make people feel that I did not respect them or their feelings. Sometimes in an effort to make my point, I fail to consider how my behaviour might injure others.

Now those are apologies!

@Kraigmo @Dr_Lawrence I see your point. But, then you are requiring very specific wording instead of maybe just listening to the spirit in which the apology is made. I guess maybe some of it might have to do with who the person is that you were offended by. Someone you never met before, a family member, a flutherite. I would hope with people you have a long relationship and trust, you would not get caught up in exactly how they word the apology. I don’t see what is wrong with being sorry for something you said? Being sorry for hurting someone else when you didn’t intend it. Maybe they still stand behind their ideas and actions, but still want to apologize for the hurt it caused.

Talking badly about my parenting or my son would insult me. I also don’t like when people try to stereotype me as a “typical army wife”. For some reason, a lot of people seem to think that army wives are uneducated, unemployed, and always pregnant or just had a baby.

They are nothing more insulting to me than someone makeing remarks about my weight. They can tell me I am ugly or stupid..that don’t bother me as much as being laugh at for being heavy.

@xStarlightx i’m not sure i like that you refer to yourself as a fat chick for reasons that would demand a full blown essay to do an explanation justice. Needless to say i don’t like women referring to themselves in a derogatory tone and bringing their gender into the equation. It’s kind of like women holding up their hands and saying `Ok Guys, you win, i give up.’ don’t do it again in public….ever

Questioning or downplaying my intelligence, skills, or abilities. Being ignored. Looking everywhere but in my eyes when holding a conversation. Blaspheming my God. Condescension. There’s probably more…

I don’t know…why don’t you just get started and I’ll let you know when you git er done?

In truth, I’m pretty hard to insult as most insults tend to hit my funny bone before they ever get to my gut. Hard to be insulted when you are bent double laughing.

@Merriment-Don’t know enough about you to really give it my best shot, but thanks for the offer.

@HoneyBee – Oh! I’m so insulted you won’t even try! :)

Hmnn, as I get older then it gets harder, a combination of thicker skin, not sweating so much small stuff and resigning myself to the fact that most people don’t know me and aren’t required to give me trust and respect right off the bat. I do get insulted if someone close to me accuses me of something I don’t do or haven’t done, like a co worker or friend.

Unfair generalizations about my country, my gender, my age and my beliefs.

@mattbrowne That just about covers it. :-)

I’m always respectful or positive when talking about someones weight. So I find it annoying when other people think it’s okay to remark on my weight for being small. “Do you even eat?’ is just as insulting as calling someone fat.

@PandaMonium Your comment reminds me of something that I once did.

A friend who was 6’11” that I hung out with was constantly asked how tall he was. We were at a restaurant one night, and a server came to take our orders. Her first question was, “Wow, how tall are you?” I responded for him…“And what is your bra size?”

I like to think I’m fairly understanding, but there’s certain terms I, and others, find offensive. Like racial slurs and gay bashing.

I really don’t like people treating me delicately because I’m a female. I’ll play the dainty card sometimes when I don’t want to kill a bug or something. But, when a male coworker gives me a nickname (Princess of the Cleaning Aisle) to go along with the work he thinks he’s assigned me to (Stocking the Cleaning Aisle at hoem Depot). Not cool.

I’m offended when people have a lack of or refuse to have a sliver of common decency. Is it that hard to say please and thank you?

An attack on my integrity

@Merriment – I like the way you think! =D

Some housework insults me. It seems that if someone ate off of it, puked on it or crapped in it, it’s all mine, no questions asked – as if my monogram were on it.