Age difference, can he like her!

She may no be concerned about the legality, but he definitely should be. Other than that, a six year difference is nothing to be concerned with.

If she were 18, I’d say go for it, but she’s not.
I am very outgoing, and my boyfriend is a nerd, there is nothing wrong with that. We are on opposite end of the spectrum, and we are happy. I am his sun and he is my moon.

When I was 17 my girlfriend was 34. When I was 40, my girlfriend was 51.

how did you make it work?

and i am very happy for you :D

It just happened. Now I’m 61 and my fiancee is 47.

Different ages mean different things, at different times in one’s life.

I met my husband when I was 25 and he was 50. Seven years later we married…He’s now 79.

16 and 22 may or may not be compatible. I don’t think it’s a great idea for most people. Now 22 and 28 would be a lot healthier.

It’s great to say age doesn’t matter…we love each other. Some people do pull it off for the long run. But, I think it matters more than we think…if we’re honest.

In the sense that there’s only 6 year’s difference, no. In the sense that these particular stages in life are quite different, yes. Not to mention that (regardless of legality) she’s under 18, yes. If they really like each other, hell, who am I to say, “No! Don’t do that!” ? My last serious relationship started with her being 17 and I was 19. I would just say…

They’re currently having to deal with quite different things in life right now. He may be living on his own. She maybe (most likely) living with her parents. He could be living in a dorm or going to college while working to pay off his books, rent, car, whatever. She could not have any responsibilities at all.

During one’s life things change pretty drastically from the ages, 15–17 , 18–21 , 22–25 and even after that things continue to change. I say, if they somehow meet in the middle where none of that matters to them, then by all means, in the words of Marvin Gaye, “Let’s get it on” hehe.

Thanks to all of you for those answers, all gave me good insight!

God I really hope it effects if he likes her or not. Age sometimes isn’t a big thing, but until she can vote, if he likes her, it’s both illegal and really icky. Really, really, really icky.

I hope he is aware of the starutory rape rules in yor state. In NY the age of consent is 17. Period. There are guys in prison who has consenual sex with girls 16 years old and were found guilty because the girls parents decided to press charges.
He should run and come back on her 17th birthday.
Those cases are easy to prosecute All the DA needs are the two birth certificate and he can say he put away a rapist. That looks good the next election cycle..

I just confirmed. It is Rape 3rd. A class E felony 1⅓ – 4 years in prison.
(Even if the sex was among friends who “love each other”.)
Ridiculous law.

Worriedguy, good answer. these are the words i would have written myself. john

@dpworkin How did you two age at different rates?~

Honestly, yes, this age difference is enough to mean that there might be problems. As the couple gets older the age difference becomes less and less of an issue, but it’s the same in reverse – with a young couple like this, the age differences may mean that the two people have completely different maturity levels, goals, thoughts, et cetera. Of course not every young couple is like this, but many young people are like this, they’re still growing and learning and finding out what life means to them, they’re still finding out who they are and what they want to be, and this amount of change can significantly hinder a relationship.

It is more a difference in life experience. The difference between 16 and 22 is almost a life time apart compared to a 22 and 28 yr old which would have much more common ground by that time in life. Not much that a 16 yr old and a 22 yr old can have in common.

it is not likely to work out in the long term, but a short term thing is possible.

@jfos My first girlfriend was twice my age (34/17) so when I was 50, she was 100.

@dpworkin Well, yes it obviously seems she must stay double your age., but then how was she only 51 when you were 40?! And now that you’re 61, she’s only 47! This woman must be magical…

That’s why I love her so.

@jfos: Think “different women.”

@gailcalled I’m trying to, but all that comes to mind is “mild sarcasm.”

That’s a lot of age difference at their ages. Concerned or not, the guy should be aware of the law; I bet her parents would be concerned.

At age 22 and 16, the odds say that they are both clueless.
If I were either one of them I would not take it very seriously.
If I were the guy, I would be a little careful. I am not sure of the various state laws about this, but I am sure that somewhere in the US she is regarded as jailbait.

Most of the under 25yr old I observe are treated like and so act like teens, I don’t see a big deal between these except for:

Statuatory rape laws and the fact it’s most often parents or jealous “friends” or the broken up youngster who rats on what is consensual.

If they fall in love and want to be together as a couple then it’s unlikely they’ll be able to live together unless she becomes an emancipated minor.

He is proably driving, working and socializing with other adults who might judge him for dating a minor instead of an adult.

Many women will avoid him thinking he’s got some kind of creep factor being attracted to young. I know I wouldn’t bring around a man with that kind of history to meet my friends or family.

@dpworkin Your choice in women must account for your grounded answers.

@MissA I think the fact that my first girlfriend was 34 meant I was socialized differently toward women. I have always had close women friends, and I have always remained friends with former lovers, including that first girlfriend with whom I am still in touch.

@dpworkin I’d say that you’ve lived an exemplary life, thus far!

I think that’s how it is supposed to happen. Let me ask you this…are your former lovers and friends close with each other?

Some of the ones who know one another are certainly on good terms. The rest I would say are indifferent. No one is angry.

No one with two divorces has led an exemplary life when it comes to relationships, but I do think I have been more fortunate than a lot of men who really want women, but don’t really like them. I like women very much. I prefer them to men.

@dpworkin I was exaggerating, albeit mildly, with the word choice of ‘exemplary’! Just having fun.

I’ve been fortunate in my life to know several men who like women for more reasons that most men could imagine. Perhaps it could be summed up with, “Men who love women who enjoy being women.”

Having the good sense to end a marriage when it is no longer beneficial for anyone involved, is a good thing. Count your blessings together, wish each other well, be amicable…and move on while you have time to enjoy it.

When I read acknowledgements of marriage for people who have remained so for 50 or 60 years, I wonder whether those years were full of love and compassion or did they experience decades of endurance. At this point, they would swear to the former…this is their reward.