How do you match up to your partner when it comes to their astrological sign (or, do you think that it's all just a bunch of bollocks)

I used to read my horoscope, but I don’t think there is any reality to astrology.

Bollocks.

Astrology is so vague that it’s often more of the reader fulfilling the end result of the horoscope than the horoscope “predicting” anything.

I’m not into it at all.The wife does read them from time to time. Doesn’t really take much stock though. For the record i’m Libra & she is an Aries. Must be well suited, eighteen years & counting is testament to that I reckon.

But it might be good for motivation, if the reader is otherwise unmotivated.

Ah, it was just for fun. =)

I know that it’s bollocks.

Bollocks, but was fun when I was a teen. I’m a Sag, I match with aquarius.

Cancer admires Scorpio’s strength while Scorpio finds a haven in Cancer’s emotional commitment. Cancer’s sensuality is ignited by Scorpio’s dynamic passions, and because Cancer is loyal, Scorpio’s jealousy isn’t provoked. Cancer’s possessiveness will actually make Scorpio feel secure. Both are extremely intuitive and sense what will please the other. Together they can build a happy cocoon where they feel safe and loved. This relationship has great intimacy, intensity, and depth. Things just get better all the time.

Astrologically, not too good. Two Pisces equals nothing gets done.

Astrology is a load of hooey.

I almost dated a guy who refused to date anyone but a Taurus or a Virgo, though he claimed to only be slightly interested in astrology. Bah.

once dated another Scorpio! not good! Would not recommend that!

I am a Capricorn, pretty true to type…loyal, tenancious,stable, perservering…I don’t put much stock in astrology other than for the fun of it, BUT…I absolutely do not match up with Scorpios at all! Well…men anyway…lolol

@BoBo1946

You’re an exception! haha

Pure bollacks.

@Coloma would never discuss that relationship on a open forum. Interesting!

I’m a Gemini and Taurus is not a good match for me. I’ve dated two (including my current girlfriend), and I believe it is true that certain Taurus qualities (such as a domestic focus) are antithetical to my penchant for exploration and anything different.

People who say astrology is bullshit don’t know decent astrology. Its historical relevance is self-evident for anyone who does some digging.

@Coloma loll…just read your comment! Loll

I don’t BELIEVE it, but it’s still fun.
I had to look ours up… I’m a Leo and he’s a Scorpio… supposedly we are a bad match. It says that we will battle for power and he will be “too romantic” for me. Which are both true. It says our relationship can be strong if we take turns wielding the power – and we do. So, I guess that’s that. :)

It’s all hooey to me. But I do seem to be a quintessential Pisces and my wife does fit the characteristics of a Cancer. And Cancer and Pisces are supposed to be a great match, and we are. Huh. Funny.

I am a Saggitarian, my wife is a Cancer. according to every astrological book i have ever read, we are the exact opposites of any of the astrogical signs. if this is true, then how does one explain being happily married to each other for 44 years?

Either the books are incorrect or ours is a marriage made in heaven.

I reckon it’s all a load of bullocks – except – one of my roommates is such a Libra that her “devil’s advocate” thing mightily irritated me until I stopped taking it personally.

@BoBo1946

lol

I love it how folks are using the word “reckon” here on Fluther (I’ve noticed 3 different people use it in that couple of days).

If it amuses someone else, I am happy to tell them my sign. This is a change from times when astrology annoyed me so much that I did anything to make fun of people who believed in it. Now I don’t really care. There are more important things. If someone wants to play around with it, it’s fine with me. Besides, I enjoy the metaphors. Playing with magic tells me something interesting about a person. It’s really about the person, not about science.

But I leave it to others. I can’t be bothered.

I’m a Leo, my husband is a Cancer. At first look, we would seem to not be compatible. I’m fire and sun, he’s water and moon. Delve deeper into astrology though and leo and cancer can be astrological soul mates. We balance each other and work well as a team. Leo’s are organizers while Cancer’s are leaders. We fit pretty well into our signs and fit really well together.

@tinyfaery I’m surprised and not at the fact your wife is a Cancer. I know she takes care of you, but she also seems so strong well, she does deal with you daily ;) I’m a Cancer as well, I’ve got more the emotional part to it.

I love astrology, I don’t put a lot of stake into it, but it’s fun!
My husband is a Sag, and I’m a Cancer. My best friend is also a Sag. They seem to be a great match for me friend wise. I know my husband and I have a great friendship, which I think built into a loving relationship.

I think of far greater significance is the fact that he is English and I’m Jewish American (although not a princess.)

Long ago, I used to read the daily newspaper’s horoscope each evening. No matter how much I attempted to relate to what it said, it never came close. So, here’s one more vote for it being rubbish.

The only thing about it that I ever found interesting is when I dated a guy who was also a Capricorn, and his personality was nothing like its description. When I asked him if he was born early or late, he said that he didn’t think so. He called his mother and was surprised to find out he was delivered 5 weeks before the due date. He had gone to term, it would have put him in the Aquarius category. Go figure.

@casheroo She is very emotional. I have this overwhelming urge to protect her, so she really only receives my love and kindness.

Well according to our horoscopes we are a good match. But I feel horoscopes are too general. They easily describe most people by touching on a little bit of everything. We are all a combo of different types of personality traits. My horoscope says I am a leader and headstrong. I do have does qualities but so does my son, my husband, and my daughter. All who have different horoscopes. What my horoscope doesn’t show is that I won’t lead unless I have absolutely no choice. Leader to me, means, person who usually will be the least appreciated.
Horoscopes like to cover their bases by placing you half way between your horoscope and the one closes to you. Like, when I don’t exactly fit my description than, I seem to fall a little into the horoscope close to my date of birth.
So I say its pretty much bollocks.
The only thing I still can’t put my finger on is, why does it always seem that the people I detest the most turn out to be Leos. I detest them way before I find out when they are born. And according to my horoscope we are not suppose to get along.

Well of course I don’t believe in it, but I can still answer the question:

He’s a Leo, I’m a Virgo born on the cusp between Leo and Virgo (which means I possess traits of both signs). Leo and Virgo are supposed to be very incompatible, but I really possess little to none of the traits of a Virgo and am much more like a Leo. Still, our birthdays are 12 days apart.

My parents are also in opposite signs (Aries and Virgo) and supposedly their relationship can never work. They’ve been married for almost 25 years…

@Pied_Pfeffer That’s really interesting. I was suppose to be born on the cusp of Cancer/Leo, but was 2 weeks late instead. I’ve always related a bit to the things I’ve read about Cancer, but I definitely feel more inline with Leo.

I find the characteristics of your birth sign to be fairly accurate in a lot of ways but I would never let a Zodiac sign be my compass in relationships. That is what communication is all about. We are both Taurus’s and both stubborn to the core! There is a lot of head butting that goes down but we also know how to get along quite well when it counts!

I tend to believe that its a bunch of bollocks ( love that word haha ) but, my long time boyfriend and I are both Capricorns our birthday’s are only a week apart. But we do tend to match up to that a lot of the time, but I tend to be less capricornish than he and that may be that I’m near the end of the capricorn spectrum.

It’s interesting how everyone says, “It’s bollocks…BUT I’m a (blank) and my partner is (blank).....” :)

A sun sign is often not enough to determine compatibility. You have to factor in all the other planetary positions in the chart….with the Moon sign and the Rising sign (the sign on the horizon at your birth) also being taken into account. It’s often not enough to say “I’m a Pisces and he’s a Sag, so we don’t get along.” In order to really know the compatibility between two people, you have to have full comparison charts drawn up and that takes some expertise.

However, if you want to do something simple…for compatiblity…basic stuff:

All the signs of an element usually get along (fairly) well:

Water-Pisces, Scorpio, Cancer
Air- Aquarius, Gemini, Libra
Fire-Leo, Aries, Sag
Earth-Taurus, Cap, Virgo

Now, another simple compatiblity marker is this: Where is the person’s moon sign?

If a person’s moon sign is the same as your sun sign then there is a strong degree of compatibility. For example, Obama is a Leo with a Moon in Aquarius…so he would get along with Aquarians quite well. (You can find out people’s charts for free at Astrolabe, if you have their place, date and exact time of birth.) So if you are a Cancer and you are dating an Aries which is not really known to be compatible, you need to check the Moon sign…which may also be in Cancer and that would be why you get along. Also, even if the Moon was in the same element (water in this case) you would also get along with Cancer.
That’s how that works.

The third planet to check is Venus. Where does a Venus lie in a person’s chart? If you are a Capricorn and you are dating a Libra, that isn’t necessarily a great combination. If, however you are Capricorn and your Venus is in Libra that might be why your Libran girlfriend finds you irresistible…as your Venus is conjunct her sun.

And just to throw this in…...a friend of mine who was an astrologer did a chart for me many years ago…..on a relationship I was in. The guy and I fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. She shrieked: “I think you’ve met your soulmate! This is the guy! Look at this and this and this….and this….” And she was right there were a lot of incredible compatible elements.

But you know what? There is still free will and there is timing. This guy was as self-individuated as a rock and had not dealt with his demons. So, this “soulmate” ended up being one of the most “not nice” people I have ever known. As they say, the stars propel they do not compel. They give you a direction, but they do not force you into doing anything.

In the end…there is the human heart that surpasses all charts/stars/bars/warnings and silliness. Bollocks? Perhaps. But it’s still intriguing at times.

Signed,
Aquarius, Moon in Cancer

If you are still interested in knowing more about this subject..a simple and at times witty book to read is called: Secrets from a Stargazer’s Notebook by Debbie Kempton Smith. It’s a classic…an old-time favorite that still holds true.

I pay no attention to it. My boyfriend and I are both Aries, our birthdays only 9 days apart, which (according to astrology) is a doomed match. Apparently, Aries personalities are too fiery to coexist. But my boyfriend is anything but fiery. We rarely argue or butt heads.

My wife is an Aries and so am I. I am on the cusp of Taurus. I am much more like a Taurus than an Aries. She and I work hard on our relationship every day and we are honest even when being evasive might be more diplomatic. It feels like we are perfect for each other and I wish she and I had ready for each other 20 years earlier and had met and married then. We’d still be together even after 27 years instead of 7 years. We complete each other without suppressing each other.

Astrology is interesting but has no scientific basis. I consider it amusing but not authoritative or reliable.

I studied astrology extensively for a number of years – to the point of doing charts for others for pay. It was that deep study that finally led me to realize it’s a bunch of nonsense.

There’s simply no truth to any of it, beyond the capacity of the human mind to convince ourselves that something is true.

Not only that, but the idea of saying that because I was born on August 7th, I will be an extrovert (or generous, or creative) is much, much too close to saying that because someone’s skin color is [fill in the blank] then they will be lazy or inscrutable or…. whatever.

Sadly, I will never get that time back.

Not to offend (much), but I think anyone that places credence in astrology hasn’t studied it enough.

It can be fun to pretend that these things describe us, but there is really no substance to them.

Insights can come from all kinds of sources, including fortune cookies and random slogans and lines in a sitcom. It’s not that they’re sent by the universe and meant for us personally but that we respond to them in a way that is meaningful for us. Almost anything can be a mirror, whether or not we’re looking for a reflection in it.

I know very little about astrology but my partner and I are 1 day apart and seem to fit very well in terms of our upbringings, ethics, morals, values, ambitions, soft spots, etc.

Going by our horoscopes, Meghan and I should have been a horror show. We were as compatible as humanly possible, we completed each other.

@jjmah Your lady wrote a beautiful tribute to your relationship is all.

I do like to read this stuff sometimes – it’s amazing how much people can make up…but no, I don’t believe in it all that much. I’m an aquarius and am supposed to be with aquairuses and geminis and that’s many of the people that I dated ever…Alex is a Capricorn which isn’t supposed to fit but I think his moon fits me or my moon fits him…cause I think my moon is in Capricorn so it’s okay…bleh, I can’t even remember it right…

I put no real stock into this stuff. However, the writers of such “bollocks” seem to think we are a perfect match.

We are all birthed at a certain time, look to the stars. It does affect us. I have several empty houses in my natal chart.

@BoBo1946 is so RIGHT. I’m Scorpio and usually Cancers are the ones I’m drawn to. Both water signs.

@netgrrl maybe doing all those charts, had you lose some intuition?? So sad to hear you say it’s boloney.

I’m Capricorn
My husband, Pisces

Together, we make mud.

It’s ok. We like to wrestle.

I am an Aries, and we Aries don’t believe in Astrology.

There’s no question that it’s bollocks, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t fun.

@jazmina88 If it’s about intuition, then why not just read tea leaves? It’s supposed to be “all in the stars” but it’s outdated astronomy. It can’t be the effects of gravitational or magnetic pull, because that doesn’t hold up either. People believe in it because they’ve chosen to believe.

I’ll opt for the bollocks.

If you can go into the “Mosh Pit” together, it’s right!

I really think that for the most part what they say about your personality in general is pretty accurate based on your sign… has been for me an aquarius..

I no longer consider Aires boys. Ever. I’ve had enough, every horrendous boyfriend I’ve had who treated me like crap was an Aires. No more.