Should I move to be with my boy friend?

Why did he move away instead of sticking with the original plan? Where will you stay if you move to be with him? What will you do if you move and then things don’t work out? If I were you, I’d wait a bit longer before moving to be with him. I think it’s a bit messed up that he atomatically thinks you should just go with him when he is the one that changed the plan.

Moving the other direction sends me a red flag. is there something going on that you are not aware of?

Personally, I think it’s best that you stay where you are and concentrate on developing yourself first. Young love can be such a fleeting thing that I’m worried if you go with him, and he falls out of love for you, you will end up being heartbroken, along with the energy and time you wasted by deserting the life you have now. Don’t take this in a bad way, but I feel that the guy doesn’t seem to fully respect you by suddenly “deciding” to move 4 hours in the opposite direction, and expects you to follow him, when he was supposed to be with you in the first place. Also, it’s always better to be around friends and family, people you know, love, and trust well, than to be with someone you’ve only known for 8 months. Yes, love is a wonderful thing, and sometimes you should give into your heart, but in your case there’s something “not solid enough there” to warrant you to do that. Further yourself first, before following someone else.

Have you asked him why he reneged on your agreement? It sounds to me like a fairly one sided relationship. Do you really want to be with someone who would back out on a major commitment?

All of the above. Stay put and finish school where you are happy. Moving in with someone, being in a new city where you know no one other than your boyfriend, being away from family and friends AND transferring to a new school sounds like too much stress.

If it is true love, you two can ride out the distance while you finish your degree. Four hours isn’t that far, and it is only two hours if you meet halfway. You both can also invest in a web-cam. It’s not the same, but it helps.

I would be really concerned about why he feels he could change from the original plan at the last minute, and expect that you to change your plans and be okay with it. Stay with your original plan, and be comfortable with your plan and decision.

I think I would finish college. Since the mountain isnt coming to you, keep your path, and think if moving together later. Keep your priorities. You like your friends, your school, why uproot now??

Everyone on this thread (including me) thinks it would be wise for you to stay put. But I think you already knew that in your heart because you asked the question.

Even though you say you truly love this guy are you willing to let your education and career take a back seat to be with him? 8mos is a fairly long relationship, but take time to think about it and let your relationship grow before thinking about moving out there. You sound really happy with the life you’ve created for yourself so stay there and enjoy it!