How do i deal with someone getting what they dont deserve?

Why don’t they deserve their positions?

Yes, I would like more content, preferably objective reasons why they are not qualified. If this is a matter of passion – i.e. their passion is insurmountable to yours, I would reevaluate what got you passionate about the camp in the first place and recognize that this is an opportunity to teach and grow.

As an individual it’s important for you to self-validate, in other words their presence at the camp should not thwart your own enjoyment, if it does and they are doing nothing externally to you to make it so, then I would suggest you analyze the situation and recognize the insecurities that are causing these feelings.

Feelings are rarely what their “face value” interprets them as. They are subconscious communications to the conscience.

Highest Regards,

Daniel Riser

I know you do not want to hear me preach but God said not to covate he did not say it to be some big mean God he said it to protect us it will rob us of our joy if we worry so much about what someone else has we will miss out on what we are blessed with ourselfs

riser has a great point. To add to that, I would like to say that sometimes an opportunity that we see fit for ourselves, may not be the best option- and often times, I’ve gotten what I thought I wanted after trying to get it for a long time, and it turns out to be better from an outside perspective. With great things comes great responsibility.
Also keep in mind that if those people cannot give you a chance to do what you think you have “earned” or “deserve”, it may be because you have qualities they cannot see, or qualities they see better fit for another area. You never know how people percieves things. To add to oneye1: God never closes a door without opening a window, I am most often preached to about this… Look around- maybe its right under your nose… Or maybe their are greater things destined for you than the camp. ” home ” is where

…..the heart lays. Maybe its time to invest your heart somewhere else. Often times people are afraid to leave their comfort zone- even though they need to. And sometimes people want to leave their comfort zones, but won’t bcuz they are afraid.
I have also heard that jealousy stems from a lack of trust…..

good luck

You find something else to worry about.

you get a GA for that cwilbur

First of all, it’s okay to be jealous and angry. While they’re not “productive” feelings, they’re not wrong either. It’s only wrong to let yourself be consumed by them.

guesswho is right: the people that make the selections for your camp have a different point of view; they may not see the same qualities in you that they see in the selected people. Yes, sometimes those qualities are such highly objective things as “he’s been my best friend since forever!”

If you’re still going to camp, try to find out what the other people brought to the table. As Riser said, asking in a professional way, trying to find out what you can work on do better for next year, is perfectly reasonable. Even though it may be what you really want to say, “those other people suck, I’m better in so many ways, why didn’t you pick meeee?” isn’t going to have the desired effect; it makes the people in charge of selection defensive and it may emphasize some of the less desirable qualities in you that we all have.

If they won’t offer you constructive criticism so you can do better next time, then those people may not be worthy of your attention. That’s when it becomes time to change the way you look at camp and the value you place on being involved with it. Either go because you like going and you get other things out of it, or decide that if you can’t be on staff, you’d rather do something else. It’s a hard choice.

I imagine I’m quite a bit older than you, and I just had to do this process with something that was pretty important to me. The only reason it gets easier as you get older is because you have mor practice at dealing with disappointment.