(NSFW) Guys with ED bad enough that even Viagra doesn't help much, (or women whose SO is in that shape) how do you handle it?

One still has two hands, each with 4 fingers and a thumb, and a tongue in one’s mouth. What’s to give up?

@dpworkin Mom always used to say, “Son, when all else fails, use your head.” Maybe that’s what that meant. ;-)

Is a penile implant (with a pump) feasible in this case.

In addition to the aboves answer, maybe you’d both enjoy a pinch hitter to make it all satisfactory for your SO. It works for some people!

Has said ED sufferer’s doctor ever mentioned Paxil?

It’s an SSRI but it is sometimes prescribed for ED. It could be worth looking into…

@Dr_Lawrence That’s a thought.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard I’d never heard of Paxil being used in ED. Thanks for the tip.

@ETpro, my mistake. I just researched a little deeper and it hasn’t been approved for that kind of treatment purpose, but it is capable of helping. Sorry :-/

I was in a long term relationship with man who was unable to keep an erection long enough for intercourse to happen.

Bottom line was, the sex was actually great. He used to kid me by saying we had “lesbian sex”, but in a way, he was right.

I’m sure he would have preferred to have an erection, but take it from me, two people with a sense of humor and a good imagination can definitely have a great time.

Lately, I’ve been seeing an infomercial for a penis pump. Apparently, it ‘vacuums’ a lot of blood into the penis, which is then constricted with a band at the base to keep it there for up to 30 minutes. I’d certainly give that a try, and see if it’s satisfactory for the man in question. As for myself, hands, mouth, and/or toys would suffice for me. ;)

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard One could always talk with their doctor about off label use. It’s quite permissible, but some doctors may be reluctant to do it because they would potentially increase the risks of losing a lawsuit if anything goes werong.

@netgrrl That is a terrific answer. Thanks.

@augustlan Fascinating. I wonder of that works. But I agree, there are plenty of other ways to be intimate and give a partner pleasure.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard I checked it out on Google. Looks like Paxil’s side efects go in the wrong direction for both men and women.

@ETpro, oh damn. That’s no good :-/

The meds for hypertension and high blood pressure mess with the ability to get or keep commandable or reliable erections too. I think the worst thing against the erections is the frustration, embarassment, anger and anxiety. If a person can find a way to thwart those emotions then erections will still happen.

Prostate stim toys might help along with rings/cages for the equipment during penetration. Really though, if some of the anger and anxiety over being betrayed by the little buddy can be worked out then… well. An understanding partner helps too but that would mean telling them there’s a problem to begin with and then they’d also have to believe it.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard I’m on the stuff. It has an adverse effect on libido, but not on performance.

@Neizvestnaya Great points. I am on meds for hypertension. Seems that unlike @stranger_in_a_strange_land it hits the equipment room, not the command center. The libido’s still fine.

@ETpro Hits different people in different ways. The information sheet lists “sexual side effects”, but doesn’t elaborate. This is my second time around on it, same effect both times; desire down but performance unaffected. My BP meds don’t seem to affect anything other than BP.

I’ve always wondered if Viagra effects the libido or just erections. You wouldn’t believe the number of guys taking these pills regardless of age or even if they have no impairments because they look at it as a party drug and it’s easy to buy off their co workers or acquaintances.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land I took hypertension and high blood rpessuer to be one and the same thing. I have high blood pressure but manage it well with two medications, hydrochlorothiazide and lisinopril. I don’t think either affect libido or erectile function. Rather, I let my BP go unmanaged too long, unaware of it. That apparently caused some structural damage to the bllod vessels responsible for erectile function.

@Neizvestnaya Viagra affects only the erectile function. For men without any problem with that, taking it is a waste of money and , while its nastier side effects are rare, an unnecessary risk.But then people who view casula sex as a routine party event are probably not all that concerned bbout risky living.

@ETpro: So if a man with ED takes Viagra will he still need arousal/libido in order to achieve that erection or does the drug just make it happen?

@Neizvestnaya Absolutely. It’s not a magic wand, it just makes a man’s wand respond to that old black magic called love.

You might want to try something like this. If a man cannot respond t “that old black magic”, at least he can treat her his partner to some of it!

@Yetanotheruser Ha! “On him, it looks good.”