I had roommates all through college, and one roommate for a while after college. For a couple of years I had a dorm room, each time with one roommate. They were fine, and we usually didn’t have any problems that I can remember now. Then, I had a suite with three other girls. The four of us got along well, and we had a lot of fun that year. Because the suite was in the dorm, we didn’t have to do the cleaning. Once a week someone came to dust, clean the bathroom, etc.
One year I had a smaller suite with a friend of mine. That time, it didn’t work out so well. She had some emotional problems and it got to be so I couldn’t stand to be in the room with her. About halfway through the semester she decided to move off campus. It was weird, because we were really good friends before we lived together. After that, I barely spoke to her. I lived in fear of the day I’d find out a new, unknown, roommate would be given to me, but it never happened and I had the suite to myself for the rest of the year.
After that, I had a campus-owned apartment with two other girls. One was my best friend, and one was a girl we only slightly knew. It was great for me and my friend, but I think the other girl sometimes hated us. ;) We could be too loud on the weekends when she had to get up early to go to work, and neither of us was good at doing dishes or taking out the trash. She’d complain, and we’d try to do better. Mostly we all got along fine.
After college, I moved out east with a really good friend who’d graduated a semester before me. Living with her, I found out she was not the person I thought she was. She’d take groceries I bought and bring them to her sister’s house for a cookout without asking me. She’d help herself to whatever she wanted for food, but never replaced it or bought groceries herself. When I asked her about it, she’d promise to go to the store or pay me back, but never did. We were supposed to split the costs of the puppy we adopted, but that all fell on me, too. She started acting really strange, hated my boyfriend, and threw huge tempter tantrums over every little thing. She made it clear our friendship was only important when she needed something from me. I moved out when my husband and I got engaged, and over the course of the next several months just gradually stopped talking to her. Just thinking about some of the things she did and said now (12 years later) makes me cringe.