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Is there a "right way" to kiss?

Asked by Piper (475points) July 20th, 2010

This question is kind of embarrassing I guess, but I was wondering if there is a “right way” to kiss someone? Like, French kiss?

I’m 13 and I’ve never kissed anyone, but I heard a story from someone who said their boyfriend didn’t know how to kiss. What does that mean?

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Scooby's avatar

Just stick your faces together & go with flow, try not to make too much noise as this is just TV hype! :-/

Come back in five years! Lol….. :-)

CMaz's avatar

The key is establishing who is the giver and who will be the reviver.

And, for gods sake. TILT your head. ;-)

cookieman's avatar

No – there is no “right way” to kiss. There are many “wrong ways” however. May I suggest…move in slow and follow her lead. Save the French kissing for later after you’re comfortable with the regular old kissing.

janbb's avatar

The right kiss is the one tha makes you both feel good. It’s not rocket science.

Pandora's avatar

The wrong way.
A lot of spit to the point where its like a waterfall.
Jamming teeth.
Lizzard like fashion.
After eating garlic
With nasty teeth.
After eating hot sauce of some kind.
With gum in your mouth.
So hard you bruise the other persons mouth

Just follow the other person. You’ll be fine.

evandad's avatar

Kissing improves with experience, in most cases. Some folks never really get the hang of it. If you like it you’ll get better with time. If you don’t you may never really be good at it.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

I am 16 and never been kissed, but I don’t think there is ever or will ever be any right way of kissing. I think you just go with the flow and bend your heads because you suddenly don’t want your noses to be in the way!
xD Hope that helped….let me know, if it even makes sense.

Luffle's avatar

When you try too hard or think about it too much, it makes it awkward. Some people french kiss and they stick their tongue in your face and you’re like… #$(@# Get out of my face!

Whenever you have your first kiss, just make sure it’s with someone you like and that you are comfortable.

gorillapaws's avatar

Your tongues should “meet in the middle.” Don’t go probing the other persons mouth. Be gentile. Less is more.

BoBo1946's avatar

A kiss is an event whose probability depends on the vital statistics of 36–24-36!

le_inferno's avatar

I didn’t kiss anyone til I was 18, so I spent many years wondering this same question and over-thinking techniques… then I actually started kissing people and realized it truly wasn’t a big deal at all. I shouldn’t have wasted time being preoccupied with it. Kissing is natural, you’ll know what to do once you start. I’m convinced that the only way to be a “bad kisser” is to be just… stupid. Someone who thinks that jabbing their tongue forcefully and assaulting you with their tongue is enjoyable… is pretty stupid to me :P Relax, go with the flow, let the other person take the lead if you’re unsure, and follow suit.

wundayatta's avatar

Be gentle. Be slow and linger. Let your lips touch gently. No crushing together or mashing. Just feel the feel of her lips. Maybe you might move your lips a little, almost like nibbling, but less so. Feel her nose. Even rub it with yours, as if you were a deer. Be patient. You are both learning together how to make each other feel good.

Lips are soft and it is a pleasure just touching them. Dryer is better, but a little moisture to facilitate sliding lips against each other is fine.

Later on—maybe many dates later, depending on how old you are, you might start including a little tongue. Just a little between your lips. Maybe run it along her lips very lightly. Maybe she will meet you with her tongue.

French kissing is pretty sexual. It’s for when you are pressing your bodies together full length, and you are both aroused and you can’t keep your hands off each other and you just need to be inside each other. Your tongues might probe inside the others mouth and they might swirl around each other—whatever seems necessary at the time.

When in doubt, though. Slow down. Too fast can turn off most women. But if they want more, they will let you know.

It’s not science. It’s people relating to each other and everyone is different and for some people this advice is useless. But try not to worry about it. It will come. You have a lot of time to learn. You won’t get it perfectly the first time, and maybe never. No big deal. The relationship is what is important. Focus on your relationship, and all the physical stuff will follow without too much thought.

CMaz's avatar

Practice with your cousin. Like every one else.

whitenoise's avatar

The right way is the way in which you keep a focus on the enjoyment of both yourself and the one your kissing with, at the same time.

edit:
the definite bad way, is to kiss someone and then tell someone else that he/she is a bad kisser*

Cruiser's avatar

Kissing passes way too many germs…rub noses like the Eskimos. ;)

Carly's avatar

From Carly: Oh my dear! Don’t worry, if you’re only 13 you’ll find out in time. You’ll only know what good kissing is after you’ve experienced bad kissing. And you’ll appreciate it when you’ve had (or given) bad kisses. Believe me, I’ve had a lot of bad kisses, but now, my boyfriend and I are sooo experienced (LOL, jk) that we know what we’re doing ;P

not really. But I know I’m a lot better at it than I was in middle school. Bad kissing is like having a bad form while swimming.

From Carly’s Boyfriend: She’s right! There are a few things you could keep in mind, tho, such as these. Don’t get over-zealous or pull back too much either. It’s nice to have something pushing back on your lips, but you don’t want your partner to fall over backwards either!! But only you can (prevent forest fires) know what’s good kissing to you and you’ll have to experiment a little to figure it out. Carly says to practice on doorframes (?) and I say watermelons. LOL! Also, don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about it – they’ll thank you later!

From Carly: (that part about him pushing or pulling back was one of the “bad kissing” traits he had to work out.) :P

From Carly’s boyfriend: Yep. >.>

Luffle's avatar

@cruiser Eskimo kissing is so cute.

Ludy's avatar

oh, you are so cute, i can’t belive i am getting that old that your question makes me feel like a grandma remembering a first kiss… i don’t think there would be such thing as the right way to kiss because everybody likes different ways so, don’t worry so much

meagan's avatar

There isn’t a wrong way to kiss that isn’t obvious. Don’t feel self conscious :)
I had a man lick my nose once.
....
Thats no good. haha

Vincent_Lloyd's avatar

haha asking a good way to kiss eh? Well there seriously isn’t a “right” way. There is only a good way (Or bad) but it all depends on what you feel. It’s not always good to french kiss on your first kiss since that’s more…eh sexual contact than just a regular kiss. I haven’t kissed anyone (though my ex always pressured me to make out with her…I didn’t want to though too uncomfortable.) but I know Lip ups might work. Maybe kissing a flat surface…Maybe a mirror or so. (but wipe off the lip marks you don’t want your mom wondering) I’m hoping this some what helped. I haven’t had my first kiss yet…

Ludy's avatar

diac, that’s gross man, just ask somebody if you can practice kissing hahahahaha, i don’t think any guy would refuse, but please, no mirror kissing!

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AshlynM's avatar

Don’ts of kissing:

Open mouthed and wet kissing is a turn off for some.
Kissing should be slow and gentle, not frantic and rough. Unless you like it that way.
Avoid pressing your teeth against the other person’s.
French kissing is overrated.
Don’t trade gum while kissing.
If both of you have braces, kissing would be a bad idea.

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