Does this mean that I'm ready to move on from grief?

To me it sounds extremely hopeful, and I am a great believer in following the voice within.

I’m choking up now thinking about. But, I do think that it’s time.

Only one way to find out. I think it will be a special moment and yes sad…but I believe you will enjoy the reconnection to those last days your mom was alive. Sorry for your loss. ((Hug))

@jjmah: It takes a long time to revisit simple things that remind you of a tragic time in your life. I can’t tell you how long it took before I could watch The Princess Bride again.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I think it will make you feel better. It helped me when my grandma died. I was able to let it go.

You could always try and if it’s too much,do it some other time :)

Okay, great. Make me cry.

@tinyfaery I’m sorry, girl.

I’m sorry for your loss, @jjmah. I do think, based on the details of your question, that you are moving into a new, more positive phase. There’s no set schedule for moving past grief, but after three years, I would think the time has come. You will probably have relapses and there will always be a sad place in your heart. But life will get better now when you have new pursuits and pleasures in your life to focus on. Good luck !!!

I’m better now.

I’m finding that my grief comes in waves. I’m not sure it will ever be completely over.

Go out there and do anything you want to. That’s what living is for. At least that’s what they tell me.

@jjmah…......

When my father died…the music we played was this amazing CD called “Angels” by the Children’s Choir of El Bosque. There is this song on there that was played a lot and at his funeral…it is called “Nirvana”. I looked for it after seeing your posting…and found it…and I had a big old cry. It’s been 12 years since his death. I thought I could listen to it without tears….as I have listened to it over the years. but I guess not. So, healing goes in steps and takes time.

Listen to the music that your mother heard…get a box of Kleenex….and if you cry it’s okay. It’s good to let it go. It may take you awhile to listen without feeling sad, but it’s all okay.

Here is the beautiful song I was talking about…I found a video of it…quite lovely:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o10oUIUOT1M&feature=related

(This is actually a re-mix with some pop thrown in——not the original—can’t find the original which was just the children. Apologies for that.)

Sending you lots of support….DR and the Jellies

And thank you for getting me to dig up this music…and help my healing, too.

You all have been a lot of help these passed three years. You’ve allowed me to open up and share my feelings. Thanks, jellies.

@tinyfaery I’m here for you anytime. (Keep in touch, you!!)

I’m doing it. It’s making me feel closer to her.

This one may certainly test you in many ways (some you expected and others that are surprises). Courage my friend . . .

You’re a sweet soul @jjmah. <3

Sometimes it’s the little (but sometimes hardest) steps that we take that make the biggest difference. It sounds like you are trying to find a way to feel close, but in the past it was just too raw. Glad that you are feeling good about it! The grief won’t go away, but being able to smile rather than tear up at the thought of her will increase.

If you play the music CD then be with people you love and you’ll be comfortable sharing your tears with, little by little it’ll feel more good than heartwrenching when you let yourself cry and cherish your mom.

Do listen.
Remember the loss and cry.
Celebrate the life and smile.
It is all good. It is progress.
Yes, you are moving on with your life.
But no, do not worry, you will never forget.
She is in your heart.
And forever will be.

Sending you lots of lurve…..Gary/wtf

I hope the experience brought you what you needed, @jjmah. Peace be with you.

@aprilsimnel It has.

Time for a new phase. Like Gary said, she’ll always be in my heart.

Thank you

I’m so proud of all of you, I’m tearing up myself. {hugs}

@jjmah mega ((hugs)).