@brownlemur: when considering the topic of “our thoughts” i think it is important to make some distinctions. first, not all thoughts are really the same type of entity. For instance, some thoughts are judgments “this is a threat, this is nurishment” some thoughts are perceptions “that is green, that is hot”, some thoughts are memories, some are internal dialogue about how we relate to the world (including the speculation about others..) and some thoughts are what i’ll call “basic drive” (bodily processes, if you will.)
now, some of these thoughts play a greater role in what we are. notably, the sense of “i” has very little to do with weather or not that pillow is soft or smooth or red or purple or maroon or is it more of a rust…indeed the thoughts that tend to mold us are those thoughts concerning how we relate to our world.
how we relate to the world breaks down into two things: our model of the world and our value system.
our model of the world breaks down into direct perceptions and assumptions (some people might say beliefs, but that is a sticky word, so i will stick with assumption. anything you can’t experience via direct sensory input, we’ll call an assumption.) You may assume things like, say, general relativity, gravity, the intention behind that note your boss sent you, the fact that your land lady expects the rent. we’re constantly making assumptions about our world based on our perceptions. any programmer will tell you, your code is only as good as your assumptions.
In a lot of ways, it is more the assumptions we make about our world than our perceptions of the world that effect who we are. If i use perceptions to extrapolate big assumptions, i am (artificially) expanding my model of the world. when your model of the world and the world itself are out of sync, you make bad decisions (or make good decisions by chance and the whimsy of chance.) So, your assumptions do matter because they inform your decisions about the world and make up most of how you think about the world (you cannot purely rely on sensory input and function in modern society..you could not have any faith in communication whatsoever, for example.)
A bad assumption that you’re convinced of can be quite costly (as we tend to fit new information into our existing worldview instead of challenging our worldview in light of new information.)
Our value system is the complex graph of ideals and judgments; favoring some things and disliking others. Our value system influences and is influenced by the assumptions we make. Our value system is reflected in our actions and our emotions, as you can witness right here on the site after getting to know some of the regulars.
So, our assumptions are manifest in our decisions and our value system is manifest in our decisions and our emotions. Through our decisions and emotions, people perceive us and create a model of us in their minds.
So, to finally get to your question… Yes! Our thoughts do become us! What we are is defined by the decisions we make based on our assumptions and our value systems.
Now, if you have a thought but it doesn’t really reflect your model of the world or you are doubtful of its correctness enough to not let it be the deciding factor in a given situation, then you may disregard that thought. As my brother says: you can chew on a thought without swallowing it.
Part of being a free thinker is having lots of thoughts. Some of more merit than others. The difference between correctness and depravity is not a lack of deranged thoughts but a failure to recognize and treat them as such.
I apologize for the length of this post, i dont have the time to make it short.