My oldest (16) is a tough nut to crack. She’s smart and passionate, but has trouble making and sticking to decisions. I do imagine her married some day, with a child or two, but at an older age. Before then, I imagine she’ll have some kind of intense career. She’s been told “you’ll be the President someday” by several people. However, she’s thoroughly disgusted by politics and swears she’ll never be a public official. (I secretly hope she’ll change her mind.) She’s gone through several phases where she was sure about her future career, only to change her mind. Currently, she wants to work in a corporate environment, mainly for the power suits and corner offices, I think. Sigh. I can’t imagine she’ll ever be anything but a passionate liberal as she is now, but who knows? She may revolt someday.
My middle (almost 15) is also a hard read. She’s very smart, too, but struggles with some anxiety related issues. She’s always been pretty sure she’s never getting married and used to say she never wanted kids. She’s amended that and says she might adopt one, but will never give birth. People often comment that she’s well-suited to be a lawyer, but she has no interest in that. (I secretly hope she’ll change her mind.) She’s interested in owning her own business (currently an ice cream shop), and I definitely do see her going in that direction… self-employed, at least, with no one to answer to. Maybe a creative career (writing?). She’s liberal, but I don’t know if she really cares about it deeply or if this is just a default position.
My youngest (12) is the easiest to get a read on. She’s bright, too and very nurturing. She has always loved any child younger than herself, and I can’t imagine that she won’t be married, with several children of her own someday (probably at a youngish age). In fact, that may be her ultimate job… stay-at-home mother. She’s very intuitive about people and emotions though, so I could easily see her as a child psychologist or a teacher, too. Whatever she does, I’m almost certain it will involve children. As far as politics go, I think she’ll always be liberal, but may not be active about it.
OK. So. Apparently I do imagine their future lives. I truly had no idea that I had put this much thought into this! I think I am probably guilty of encouraging careers that suit their personalities and that I deem ‘worthy’ of their intelligence, sometimes. I try to stop myself from doing that, because I think it’s obnoxious. Whenever I catch myself doing it, I back up and tell them that whatever they do is ok with me, as long as they are happy with it. Thanks for making me think, @JLeslie. Their lives should be their own.